I'm 48 and she's 46. I have 3 kids 22,21,and 16. She has 2 kids 14, and 11. We've been going out for a little over 4 months. This was the first time that either one of us had told each other that we loved them. We were laying there in each others arms and I told her that I had fallen in love with her. She then said what are the right words. That's when I said I love you and she told me she loved me. We had just spend the morning and afternoon decorating her house. She called me on my way home from her house, said she would call later. Didn't call that night at all. Next day no e-mails either, we always did an e-mail in the morning. Tried to call her a couple of times. No answer. She called me later in the afternoon and said that she thought it best if we broke up now. Something didn't feel right. I just don't get it!!! How can you tell someone you love them and then 24 hours or sooner say you don't want to see them anymore. What happened. I just want to know why???? Thanks for listning
2007-02-25 02:15:35 · 8 answers · asked by whatdoidonow48 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe she was overwhelmed by you saying you love her and she didn't know how to react but to say it back. maybe call her again and see if everything was OK and ask if you can still be friends
2007-02-25 02:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by lils 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
man, I'm15 years old, younger then all of your children, but take advice from me, she's afraid of commitment, she's been shut down before, and doesn't want to get close. You did nothing wrong, just that when you said you loved her, she got scared. This is due to maybe a past experience, or what other people have told her about men. Don't take it personally. Try and talk it out with her, tell her you deserve a decent, detailed answer, at the most, if it isn't going to work after you guys have talked. I know it may be a little scary, doubtful and even a bit weird a 15 year old is giving you advice on this, but i honestly think its the best advice i can give you.
2007-02-25 10:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by xstreetplayax101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was not looking for that deep a commitment. She responded to avoid confronting her true feelings or perhaps after she had time to reflect she became scared. She may have commitment issues due to her first marriage. Perhaps she cannot face the responsibility of caring for such a large combined family. Give her some time to sort out her feelings and then talk to her. Better to find out now than in the middle of planning a wedding or after a marriage.
2007-02-25 10:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by notaxpert 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is much other people on answers can say here. I think you should question her.
I think that once you told her you loved her she probably started feeling guilty, maybe she's done something "wrong" by you and feels badly now. Based on what you said here, it seems that she reacted pretty fast. (Broke it off very soon after) Really, I would question her about it. You've got that right.
Gool luck and have a great day!
*PINK ELLIE*
2007-02-25 10:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe she heard something from someone about you or maybe she just doesn't feel right going out with you maybe she knows something that you dont want her to know or maybe you just weren't her type I'm sure someone out there is the perfect match for you.
2007-02-25 10:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by The gymnast 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sad sad sad.. maybe she was just need ur help.. and u didnt notice.. but am sorry about ur feelings.. look for other whos going to love u for 72 hrs...
2007-02-25 10:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by lene 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't love you but didn't know what else to say when you told her how you felt.
2007-02-25 10:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sounds like she was using you
2007-02-25 10:19:42 · answer #8 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋