Does it matter who shows the most affection in a relationship? When I'm out in public, and I see a couple that is very affectionate, it seems like it more on the female side than the male. I've seen women hugging and kissing all over guys and the men showing minimal affection back. I'm far more affectionate in my relationship with my girlfriend than she is with me. If I don't push for a real passionate kiss, then we may go for weeks with just pecks. If a man is more affectionate in a relationship than the woman, is that a bad side? Is he being to soft and over time doomed to become less and less attractive to his partner? Are the roles reversed? Should I be concerned?
2007-02-25 02:02:23 · 5 answers · asked by Northstarr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no.
depends on the person. some people are clingy and want to touch all the time. some people aren't or just want to play it cool in public.
women seem not to like clingy guys so let the woman want to be the one touching you.
2007-02-25 02:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Northstar,
I think you have things all wrong. It doesn't matter who shows more affection in a relationship. It is the way that both people feel inside that counts. For some reason, boys are brought up (prob. by the father) about not showing affection too much, you know, the old "hang-up" about the "Macho" image from way back when, and somehow some guys have it "instilled" in them.
There are people, both men and women who don't like to "display" affection in front of others; it's just the way they are and there isn't anything wrong with that! So, if the man is MORE affectionate, I see it as a wonderful thing! When I was dating, guys didn't show "that side" of themselves but I accepted it, and still I feel it's in the individual's upbringing------ coming from the Father.
In any case, for us girls, I think we were brought up showing affection more, BUT there is a factor that can interrupt that, say maybe there is a case of some kind of abuse in the family, then you see girls grow up not liking to be touched, shown affection too much, etc. But, again it's depending on how each person is brought up in their family, whether it's alot of love and affection shown between the parents, and the way the Siblings and family gets along as a whole.
Anyway, YOUR situation isn't anything to be concerned about, as long as you and your gf are happy and comfortable in your relationship, and it's a good thing too that you both can talk about it and see where you both "stand" on the issue!
Sounds good to me that you seem close. Stay the way you are and don't change a thing!
2007-02-25 10:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as soft. U r what u r. Don't even use words like soft, manly, lady-like because they don't mean anything. U r a man right? So how can society tell u that u r less of a man because u r being what u want to be? Your genetics havn't change and that's all that make u a man anyway. All of the things that we attach to being "real man" or "real women" are completly subjective gender roles. We r equal so gender roles don't mean anything anymore then racial stereotypes mean anything.
I'm sure that the reason that u see more women being affectionate is because they are men and women who have grown up to have certain expectations of themselves and their mates based up the gender roles. Women are taught to be emotional, caring and nurturing in order to fit the mold. Men are taught to be "strong," independent and leaders. Of course there are other roles that influence the way people dress (skirts for women, suits for men etc.) but these are the ones that influence what we feel like we can do without looking strange to the community.
U should do what u want and if a girl is right for u she will like it. If not then move on. U shouldn't go through life trying to impress people by denying yourself.
2007-02-25 10:12:39 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be concerned about it.Your girlfriend is probably loving all the attention and affection that you're giving her.I don't think it matters who shows the most affection, as long as both of you are happy then it doesn't really matter. it's not a big issue, don't get all worried about it.
Good luck
2007-02-25 10:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by xo-Stacey-ox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to find someone who is passionate to begin with, not someone you have to make be that way
2007-02-25 10:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋