my bf loves me alot n i love him too, he says i fight a lot , may be i do it to some extent but i easy get over it within hours n then i m normal but he says i need to change this mood swings of mine cause it may be a serious prob some day , he asks me to change ,i wonder how do i deal with this, my bf does not like me or wat that he is asking me to change?n shuld i change? or shuld i let my ego come in the way? plz help?plzzzzzzz
2007-02-25 01:58:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should change boyfriends.
ok now. what are you fighting about? how do the arguments start? those are the issues to address. If he does something that sets you off then he needs to change. If not then you need professional help.
2007-02-25 02:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with him. You have to find another way to direct this. Take up a hobby or go for a walk or even execise..Any way you look at it,your mood swings will be the cause of many downfalls in your life.I have seen this first hand with family and friends. If you love your boyfriend,then put your ego aside (there is no reason to have an ego anyway). At least he has told you about this,he must love you enough to be open like that. You have alot to look forward to in life,why bog it down with getting mad or being mad all the time...Remember: Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...because it's all Small Stuff...I wish you both Luck..
2007-02-25 10:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by Frank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on why you fight.
Are you being to senstive? Are they real issues? I'm a fighter to but I pick my battles. Maybe this is a problem you two need to work on together. Trying to change for someone else never works and eventually you revert back to you and wind up resenting the person who asked you to change becuase they you start asking yourself. Why doesn't he like me the way I am... and it's all down hill from there
2007-02-25 10:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have mood swings, and realize that you do, then ask your gynecologist for help with this, as it might be your hormones. However, nobody should change themselves to please someone else. You have to do it because you want to. Is your boyfriend trying to make you over into someone you are not? This would be a bad thing, because that means he wants to control you. Nobody should control you. Maybe you need a new boyfriend,but only you know for sure.
2007-02-25 10:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously really likes you and wants this relationship to continue, or else he would just ditch you.
If he wants you to stop fighting, it takes two to tango, bubba. He's got to stop doing things he knows would make you mad. You are not the only one who needs to change.
2007-02-25 10:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by blimey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he wants to make you into something your not. dont change for him. if anything change for yourself.
2007-02-25 10:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋