My 10 yr old has been having sexual feelings about girls he describes as tickley feeling in his stomach. He was cought by his younger sister "making out" with her life size doll and we have always been very communicative with him we have tought disease and such in health (we homeschool) We have told him sex was a private thing not for others to see and we have told him we do not want him doing these things yet. But just yesterday I over heard him talking with his friends about it again. We have talked about others touching him also. Is it normal to have all these feelings this young and what else can I do to help him understand he is not old enough for sex yet. We monitor his tv and games also so is he learning this stuff from his friends? My husband and I kiss if front of the kids, hold hands, hug but we don't do the things he is talking about around them. help please!
2007-02-25 01:55:39 · 6 answers · asked by Trisha 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
We are not religious just concerned. Doesn't anybody belive that children are too young for anything anymore or are we all to happy to go along with the "everybody is doing it" attitude?
2007-02-25 02:55:27 · update #1
Please don't bash the home schooling thing he does have lots of friends both boys and girls and lots of socializing.
2007-02-25 03:18:17 · update #2
Your little boy is hitting puberty at a young age, this is called pre pubesences and is quite normal. You are already doing the appropriate things, but just to help him I would back off on kissing in front of him. There is no harm in what you are doing, but his little hormones are going wild.
As for as the masterbating, well, we would all like to stop our children from doing it. When you catch him do not shame him just ask him to stop. I would make my daughter keep her dolls out of reach and do not leave your children alone together as he may get a little more curious there. That will only encourage this behavior. My older brother went through this, and one time my mother left my oldest brother in charge, well, my older brother thought that was great lucky for me my older brother was a bit on the mean side, nothing really bad happened but just a heads up for you, I don't know how old your daughter is.
It is not wrong for you to want him to refrain from this, but it is going to be hard to keep him from acting out these behaviors. Just keep an eye and try discretely to stop him.
Good luck, I hope everything goes OK.
2007-02-25 10:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 10 and he's a boy. It's that time. Honestly, give him a year and he'll be crying at odd times and taking much longer dumps than he used to. It's normal. Your husband should talk to him about how it's perfectly normal to have sexual feelings at his age. He shouldn't feel like a freak. He should also know, like you've already told him, that sex is a private matter for adults. Stress to him that he is not an adult. He'll discover masturbation soon enough. That should tide him over for a while.
2007-02-25 15:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trisha, maybe you told you middle school son too much too soon. If the child is not mature enough to comprehend sexual behaviour when it is taught to him, he becomes confused. Did you also Tell him that he must not have unprotected sex and that he should use a condom? He's not ready for that yet. Never the less, at 10 most boys are curious about sex. He may not be sexual feelings that he's having for girls. He's home school and maybe he hasn't learned to socialize with girls other than his siblings. Just don't push too much too soon on your son. Talk privately to him about his behaviour (don't scold) and don't spy on him. It's quite normal for a 10 year old to experiment with his sexual being.. By the time he's 12, he'll be masturbating. That's normal.
2007-02-25 03:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds perfectly normal and you should leave him be, unless you are religious nutters in which case you should fast and pray to god for the answer.
2007-02-25 02:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by Bobby Cretin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is just a normal part of a child growing up. just explain to him that it is not ok to act out these kinds of things at his age. he will probably grow out of it. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-25 05:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal, just means he is maturing younger than most boys.
2007-02-25 02:06:44 · answer #6 · answered by cigaro19 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋