when i dont do anything to him
2007-02-25 01:46:22 · 15 answers · asked by Amanda O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Because he's an idiot as well as an @$$hole. You DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT have to put up with that crap! I strongly urge you to pack up all your things, and if you have kids with this looser, gather them together and pack all their things, and get the hell away from that damn monster. The sooner you do so, the better off you'll be. I know there's a man out there somewhere who will give you the love and respect you surely deserve. Good Luck.
2007-02-25 02:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know how long this has been going on, but if you look there may have been a pattern to lead up to this. This is part of the pattern that can lead to a domestic violent situation at the hands of your husband. It may be verbal abuse now, I am sure jealousy, and power control are two of the ongoing issues. Seek help now and stop trying to please a person who can not be please. Contact the local domestic violence prevention agency an speak with them, join a support group. You may hear many stories from others that sound like things you have experienced. You do not, nor does anyone deserve to be treated this way. But it can and may get worse if you so not put a stop to it now. Stay strong. Good Luck
2007-02-25 10:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by w2kaad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he think that he can and you allow it to happen. You have to go inside of yourself and ask yourself, "how do I deserve to be treated?". Then go about treating yourself this way and don't allow anyone else to treat you other than the way that you feel that you should be treated. Have you ever noticed that the b***** seem to have the best relationships? They respect themselves and will only allow others to respect them. Same thing with people that seem to be doing nothing at work....go shopping, make time for relationships, etc.. Not to say that they aren't smart but when you take care of yourself, it seems that your life flows.
My husband used to be "mean" and I allowed it for a while. Then I realized that some of my self talk was degrading when I made mistakes and stuff. When I changed my self talk, he and other people began changing their treatment of me. It's funny how that works. I used to rationalize my husbands behavior and then I just decided that it simply was unacceptable...period.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 10:33:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because he just had a bad day and feels comfortable enough to lash out at you, however, this is not acceptable and you should put a stop to this. The next time he lashes out ask him why he's taking it out on you. Did something happen or did you do something to irritate him. What can you do to help him stop this behavior or if he needs to talk about something. Tell you love him but no body deserves to be treated this way, especially his own wife. You are there to help him but will not stand by and take all his crap. Good luck.
2007-02-25 12:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When mine does it's cause of poor commutation skills. I know that sounds like a sack of S**t but it's true. He will lash out at me because I am there and I listen.Even when it's something else making him mad. Try talking Not fighting back U might find the root of the trouble. Tell him in a manor u would use with ur children I don't like what ur doing...Or ur not going to talk to me like that. I wish u the best I hope this helps...Just DON"T EVER LET HIM HIT U. DON"T EVER LET HIM MAKE U FEEL LIKE U CAN"T DO BETTER
2007-02-25 10:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by raynemarie03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like sometimes people treat the ones they care about the worst. When my husband gets in a mood, I pretty much say "shut up" in a more colorful way....then remove myself from the situation. Why deal with it or escalate it if you know its going to pass?
2007-02-25 11:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he is a jerk and you don't put a stop to the way he treats you. If you don't like the way he treats you then get rid of the guy. Ask him why he treats you like you say he does. How can any of us know what the answer is?
2007-02-25 10:17:44 · answer #7 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop allowing him to treat you this way. You need to put your foot down.
2007-02-25 10:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he can. we all have bad days and we take them out on the one we love, if it is getting to be to much for you tell him you understand times are hard and you have had a bad day to, but you also need to vent, so tell him to go take it out on the yard or whatever and you will weed the garden,
2007-02-25 10:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow him to do it. He can't treat you badly unless you allow it. Put more faith in yourself and learn to value yourself.
2007-02-25 12:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋