we've been going out for 6 months now and she sais she loves me, but im not so sure. i have to make all the effort and in all this time shes probably kissed me twice, and as for the sex......what sex??
we live half an hour apart from each other, and because of work we only have the weekends, but even then we only see each other friday and saturday nights, she makes excusses about not seeing me the rest of the weekend!
am i waisting my time with her? the trouble is i love her to bits and the time we do spend together feels special and she always seems happy when we're together! but this so called realtionship feels a bit one sided to me!
2007-02-25 01:40:33 · 18 answers · asked by Alan B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmmm a bit of a problem...from what i can gather...ur moving too fast for her...i mean...relationships do not consist of only sex. i think u shld talk to her so that she could straighten out her priorities...she shld understand that u need time together with her... This relationship seems to lack communication... with good communication any relationship work...but make sure u dnt do too much to make the relationship work...but discuss your problems with her...if she is someone worthwhile...she'll try to change...but give her time... try to think what u want with this relationship and maybe slow things down..dnt rush her too much... goodluck!
2007-02-25 02:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about it. does it make you truly happy to spend time with her? do you look forward to seeing her? if so, maybe she feels that you're doing the same to her. try planning something really extravagant. I don't mean taking her to dinner or a movie. I mean something sweet that she might look forward to. go to an amusement park for a day, or an outdoor picnic, or something like a hot-air balloon ride! plan an all-day trip, and if she says she's too busy don't take no for an answer! do something to show your romantic side! be creative!
2007-02-25 09:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Unlucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to agree with you. It sounds like she is in the relationship just because somthing is stopping her from ending it. Maybe she is on the lookout for someone new and she is afraid of being single until she finds someone else. It just sounds like you are someone to consume her time with so she won't be bored, and she can say she has a boyfriend, because everyone sounds more important when they aren't alone.
2007-02-25 09:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by Shirley B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me respond in order here. You've been dating for 6 months, but barely kiss. She isn't willing to dedicate all of her time when she's not working to you. And you're in love?
Frankly, I don't think this relationship is going to work. There is a physical component to relationships that you two aren't fulfilling, and you seem needy. Dump her and learn from your mistakes.
2007-02-25 09:47:51 · answer #4 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked her what she expects the relationship to be?
Your only metrics so far are:
- feeling special
- being happy
- getting kisses and sex
I think your expectations are way off base. If they are what they are, then you will waste your time with many other women as well.
2007-02-25 09:46:29 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you let her make the first move and see how long it is before she calls you? You might have your answer there and you know the answer deep down inside. Just go with it!!!
2007-02-25 09:45:02 · answer #6 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would discuss this with her. tell her that your ready for more its time for her to declare how she feels or move on. A few kisses in 6 months!
2007-02-25 09:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds one sided, maybe you should let her know how you feel, if she doesn't make an effort to meet you half way then move on to someone that will make you happy in more ways
2007-02-25 09:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you love her, she can't give you the relationship you want. So you should move on to someone who can.
2007-02-25 09:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kacky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and ask where she stands...suggest moving in together and see what she says.
2007-02-25 09:43:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋