i cant forget him!!?

Question

i had this friend of mine who juss played with my feelings and now doesnt realize what hes done..it might be normal for him..we were soo close..shared everthing... he went away for studies abroad n it was like everything ended...he just dissappeared for 2 and a half months..everything is soo fresh in my mind (all tht happened in sept!!) i cant seem to get him out of my mind...i try n console myself etc saying its not worth and all but at the end of the day i feel like crying..he had sen me a mail tellin me sorry for dissappearing for soo much time n all (in november) and recently 10 days ago when i was talking to him i asked him saying THE EMAIL WAS SOO FAKE-- he accepted by bluntly saying ---i dont knw must be fake..that hurt me the most..wenever we met---when he left etc i made him a card..i got him chocolates etc.. he never seemed to get it..10 days we did not speak after i sent him a mail saying not to oblige me by saying sorry..he just sent me a "ssup" as if nothing was wrong!!

i dont knw whether to reply or no..... i had decided to forget himand move on ... i know its easy said than done.. i dont want to be such a person..but i really liked him and he was such a gooooood friend n i have sooo many memories with him i just cant get to forget him....what do i do??

Answer 1

jus keep yourself busy otherwise u will be depressed there no other way jus stop thinking abt him

Answer 2

dear friend i feel its good for you to stay off that email thingy you know ..just stop communicating if it gets painful. distract yourself and focus on your own career, and guys will follow. However, if you really think you have feelings for him, that u feel are very intense, you can simply ask him in his next mail what kind of connection he wants with u; simply the ''ssup'' one or something more meaningful. his response will sort matters out for you further. If u feel nuthin nice happening over there simply tell him u wouldnt want to continue like that. men are an awful bit at times esp. during emotional decisions. but the important thing is it should not worry you dear. cheers.

Answer 3

I have the same problem. Theres this guy i loved as a friend and more... He didnt think of me in the same way i guess.. He left and went to another school, now he doesnt keep intouch, never talks to me, he seems to be avoiding me. But i cant help it i was so in love with him. but he never knew and now its too late. i cant forget about him and i miss him alot. i was so close to him and i told him all my secrets but that didnt matter cause he just left! like he doesnt care or ****. I try to forget bout him but i cant.
In your case he seems to want to talk to u so do it! Dont waste your time on the past if i had a chance i would. I would talk to him and be close to him and forgive him. He deserves a second chance...

Answer 4

i'm interior a similar boat as you. i'm in love with a guy who's rather lots the guy of my objectives. I fell in love first like 5 years in the past, then I met him returned and it happened returned, different than now that is extra mature. i'm deeply in love with him. DEEPLY. I instructed him on October 29, 2007. I definitely have not heard from him via fact that, and that is only about been a year. and that i'm harm, won't be able to flow on, do no longer understand what to do, and am heavily unhappy.

Answer 5

Hi,

So u met ur tormentor. And by the way u sound it seems he hit u at the right spot.

Tell u what... I too had a friend. He never cared for any girls emotions. Used them as he liked, as was never involved, but then boys are meant to be like this, he used to say. Till he got his match. And now.... I cannot say the if life had any sweeter revenge planned for him.

The messages is clear sweet heart (pardon me for saying that). Everybody meets his/her match, just sometimes it takes a bit long.

But this is not the question. The question is, what u want. Do you want to wait and see when he meets his match or do you want to go out and seek a match for urself. The question is whom do you care more for, yourself or him.

If you care for yourself. I tell u what to do. Instead for delaying long hours on what went wrong. Sit down and go through it once again. Go thru every things. Note down the times he let u down, made u cry and made u feel worthless and times he used/abused you (sexually and materialistically). I am sure u would fine plenty of these incidents. Take a print out of these, see them when ever you remember of him.

You might want to brood over your broken heart, but again when you feel too hard to resist him. Think this.

Some day U will have some one in your life. One whom u will love, marry and start a new world and tell him all your heat felt moments (by my experience girls always communicate their pain and lost love stories with their Boy :) )

The only one thing will hurt him the most at that time. That how u were mistreated by this person and how much u let him disintegrate your self esteem. And then you will again utilize a part of ur life convincing him that why u did it and this is all to it.

Is this what you want do in ur life when you meet ur sweetheart? Be a sissy and weak a person, a person who let some one fool her emotions and integrity?

Let go of this feeling and eventually this person. Come out as a winner. The best way to win is, to be infront of this person, talk to him, laugh , smile have fun. but do not get involved and believe me girl, you might even reach the position that might make this person think to start a relation ship with you. if that moment comes, then say NO. And then you shall have a deserving end to this relationship.

Now what happens in case, he does not falls into this trap. So my answer is, why are you doing this all for. For him, or for urself. You will do this to get yourself the respect back and not to make him jealous. if you play this game to make him jealous, start a relation ship with any one u come to know. Chances are u will end up like Britney spears, with a broken marriage, two kids, a bald head and checking in to a rehab (to the best of my news paper rumors).

Leaving the jokes out. relation ships happens when you are at Par. Otherwise, its grant or sacrifice.

Go out. There is much much to life. Go and learn Salsa, tango.
Rock with guitar classes. but do not go alone for some time. Be occupied (how?) and see how soon it goes away. And when you feel low.

Just remember this........................

Answer 6

girl.. get up and see beyond the boy. I've had my share of relationships and one thing i know is that no break up lasts forever.. yes it might hurt u more than usual.. or more than others.. but whats bad for u is difficult to push away.. thats the way it works.. u shud never choose to be in a relationship that lacks respect.. choose to love urself over him and move on.. and rethink ur reasons of wanting to be with him. No one wants to be with people that treat them bad.. maybe u r just looking for validation of ur own feelings. Just for the sake of acceptance i put myself thru hell for 2 years. I dint even trust the guy forget loving him but it felt like I did. But no.. that wasnt the case.

SO please do urself a favour and move on before this crush of urs takes more out of you than just ur self esteem...

Answer 7

yea, i know what you mean. i have the same thing with this lame guy, but i just can't forget him, no matter how hard i try! i find my day to day moods are dependant on how things are going with him. we have a great time when we hang out, and then he ignores me for like, weeks on end. it's really upsetting. do what you think is right. if you want him out of your life, then do it. but if you want him in your life, and want to talk to him, then talk to him. either way, eventually you will realize how badly he treats you, and you will be the one ignoring him, and sending him fake emails, and then he'll regret the way he treated you.

Answer 8

He had fullfilled his requirements and gone. Now its your turn to move on with your life. He was just a bee who had sucked you and left free.
Its the world baby need to know that, there are thousands waiting to act in the same way if you are not alert.

Answer 9

Just keep urself busy.
Try to do some Yogas and Meditations
It takes few days but everything will be normal
Develop ur Hobby and keep ur self engaged

Answer 10

Moral of the story, not written in Mills and Boons books perhaps.
"Its is easier to let the heart rule and throw common sense out of the window."

Why do we do it? Just being human I guess.

YOU can choose a person who can be a LOYAL custodian of your feelings. NOT one to whom your feelings are okay for the time being.

Make your choice and move with it.

Answer 11

hi in life u may meet many people they may come and go but do not think everyone is like u. You are so confused because you give less importance to yourself than others. love youerself and like those who like you and forget those who forget you be sincere to yourself than you will not have any confusion in your life life does not end with a friend.Ok be confident enjoy your life forget him.god bless you.