I can't seem to take my relationship to heart. I want to but something stops me. I was hurt very badly in a previous relationship and I'm sure that is why I close myself off to the idea of loving again. But I want to. Any advice????
2007-02-25 00:47:08 · 6 answers · asked by hthr_1974 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people keep telling me to let my last relationship go, but I'm not holding on to it. I was married for 14 years and I was finished with the relationship 2 years before it actually ended. He was abusive, and cheated on me several times. I guess I'm just trying to figure out how to allow myself to open up again.
2007-02-25 10:50:31 · update #1
I will not tell you to "just let it go" because I have been there and I know how hard it is to take those steps to let someone else in. With that said realize and accept that the bad relationship is over. Then try taking a new perspective on that bad relationship. Now that you have had the bad, you will now know when you have the really good.
Here is another cliche but very true: what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. This way you are not minimizing what happened in the bad relationship. Take some time to think about what occurred early on in the bad relationship that was a red flag for how you got hurt. Now realize this is an opportunity to file that away and chances are if you ever see that red flag again you will act on it.
Take baby steps with your heart, it took you awhile in your last relationship to build up the feelings that left you shattered when the relationship ended. It will also take awhile to heal your heart and learn to love and trust again, but if you change your perspective and not blame yourself for the past you will love and trust again. If the guy you are with now is the right guy he will respect and love you enough to take it slow because he will see the bigger picture and as a very, very special person once said to me: "keep your eye on the prize". Good luck!
2007-02-25 01:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by karenlanea2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every relationship will end like the last one did. The first time you experience heart break is the hardest, apparently it's supposed to get easier the more times it happens. Let the old relationship go and let this new one bloom, it could be a long-term relationship if you give it a go. :)
2007-02-25 08:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Elrond Nolatari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do, is let the old relationship go. Accept the face that he/she hurt you badly, but move on. Try to tell yourself that this person is different, that they are special! Let it go.
2007-02-25 08:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still like this, you gonna look old my dear, you have to change yr life style. If you keep continue being like this, you not going to have peace of mind.
Everybody been falling in love and most of the time we do get rejected, life have to go on.. things that past by have to let go..then u can continue wth new life...
2007-02-25 11:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we've all been hurt before. you need to get passed this and move on. you may get hurt again, but if this person is mister right you will never know.
2007-02-25 08:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by bubba 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out get laid and start again.
2007-02-25 08:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by norfolk'n good 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋