ive just had to have my cat put to sleep this morning. she was 17 and suddenly became ill over last week... i feel lost without her and cant believe im never going to see her again..has anyone else had this and how long did it take for you to feel ok again.
2007-02-25 00:00:41 · 16 answers · asked by slsvenus 4 in Pets ➔ Cats
Its an awful thing to go through. My cat died suddenly last June and I still think of him regularly. I don't think you ever properly get over it but the pain eases. The poem "Weep Not For Me" by Constance Jenkins always helps me - I cry, but in a nice way (if you know what I mean)
Weep not for me though I am gone
into that gentle night.
Grieve if you will, but not for long
upon my soul's sweet flight.
I am at peace, my soul's at rest
there is no need for tears.
For with your love I was so blessed
for all those many years.
There is no pain, I suffer not
the fear now all is gone.
Put now these things out of your thoughts
in your memory I live on.
Remember not my fight for breath
remember not the strife
Please do not dwell upon my death,
but celebrate my life.
Take care. Pud xx.
2007-02-25 02:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by Pud 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry about your cat.
Yes I have lost many pets ranging in size from mice to dogs over the years and I've grieved for them all.
The worst part of owning pets is that most don't live anywhere near as long as people.
How long you will grieve for depends totally on you.Everyone recovers at a different rate.You have the right to know that some people take longer than a year to get over a loss,sometimes much longer than a year.
Ignore the people I'm sure you'll get who say you shouldn't grieve for your cat,they are idiots who just don't understand how much animals can mean to their owners.
The important thing is to let yourself feel the grief but comfort yourself by knowing you gave her a good life.
2007-02-25 08:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing. How awful, you must be devastated. I can sympathise as I had to put my beloved cat down when I was pregnant as she was so ill. I was in shock for a week. I did get another cat after a while though as I couldnt bear not having one in the house. All loved animals are like family and you must take time to grieve as you would for any other relative (although I suspect non animal lovers might question that)
Time heals, its a old but tried and tested cliche. Do what is best for you, what feels right...God bless.
2007-02-25 00:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Many of the answers on this thread are very good and I agree with most of them.
Here is what I do when I lose somebody or something I care deeply about: at bedtime, when I am relaxed (but not falling asleep), I close my eyes, focus on the person or pet and begin gently to talk to him or her. I ask questions. It works, and no, it does not mean you are crazy. I've been doing this and practicing this for over 20 years.
Give the spirit a chance to mentally talk back and listen to what it says. Trust what it says. Your kitty will not send you words but will send you mental/visual images and you will feel the emotion in the message. Anybody who is open to doing this can do it ... it is real and it works.
Once you experience that your kitty loves you and is ok, you will feel much more accepting of the loss and you will realize she really hasn't left you ... she has just changed physical forms.
Take care.
2007-02-25 00:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by americansneedtowakeup 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Losing your cat is like losing a member of your family . Of course there is going to be grief there as you loved your best friend and will indeed miss her. Time will tell how long it will take to realise she isn,t there any more but it doesn,t mean you are going to forget her.Try to focus on the enjoyment she gave you and try to get fond memories of how she grew up with you. If you want in a little while try to get yourself a little brother or sister kitten not as a replacement for her but as an outlet to show another one your love.A rescue cat could probably do with your help at some stage.
2007-02-25 00:08:50 · answer #5 · answered by mickey 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You will see her again. My mum was at a spiritualist church last week and our dog who has been dead for some 12 years came through to her. Animals have spirits too. Just think that you did your best for her, she had a very long life, and you did the right thing. You wouldn't have wanted to see her suffer. And on the other side she will be all cured and like a young cat again. She will be waiting for you when it's your time. I hope you take some comfort from this. Best of luck to you. xx
2007-02-25 00:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
aww...this must be the worse moment in time... putting your cat to sleep...its like taking your comma-d family someone off the life-machine coz they aint gonna live anyway..
you know, the feeling will never leave u.. that missing and needing to pamper your cat, remembering the pain and the joys of having them..thats pure pain...
i know this might be everyones answer.. but id say it again, you have to be strong.. u know how i do it when i loose my cat?
i cry my heart out.. i remember the moments with them..and most probably get another cat...to get my mind off...its not betrayal, its moving on..and as any human leaving us,its the same as our long lived together pets.. you grief, you remember and you gotta move on...
Its painful especially when u have to put them out urself but its really the best solution or else, ud just hurt them more...
Anyway, be strong...as in a relationship-when u break up,u grief and distract and what better distraction if not another one..(another cat)...
Takecare ok!
2007-02-25 00:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by kim_stolz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Oh i feel for you. My cat had to be put to sleep last Aug, he was also a much loved family member, i had him cremated and his ashes are on my window ledge, in a beautiful box. It takes time to get over a much loved pet, even now i still get upset but he wouldn't want me upset so i think of him through happy times. Make a little part of your garden special to him/her or buy an ornament to remember him/her. God be with you and remember others know and understand your pain. X
2007-02-25 02:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by kevina p 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with americansneedtowakeup. We assume that communication has something to do with them being nearby but we always have that opportunity to communicate with them in our minds. I believe strongly that they can receive from us what we wish for them to know - and that they can respond to us in their own way.
I think though, to answer your question directly, that there can be a deep sense of loss during the first couple of weeks especially and that can start to lessen after that. I know that hurt and sadness can be really strong at first. It was always that way for me when my animals friends had gone. Sometimes I still feel a littel misty eyed for them even years later - but it does get better. Just give yourself permission to let your feelings up and then you will start to notice that things are getting a little better day by day. Hang in there, there's lots of us here that have gone through this too. I had to put my baby to sleep last week also. I do miss him but I know that it was the right thing to do because he had leukemia. But I will always remember him with love.
2007-02-25 01:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by ineeddonothing 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry to hear your news.
I had my 3 cats from kittens until they were 18 and I lost them all more or less over a period of 6 months. I was devestated and like you felt lost. It took me ages to get over it because they were part of the family and I loved them to bits. Its been 5 years now and I still think of them and occasionally get upset about it. People think I'm silly getting upset over a pet, but until you have one for that amount of time, you don't know.
I wish you luck
2007-02-25 00:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋