How do I tell my girlfriend that I'm sorry for doing something that hurt her so much and not even realising I did it?
2007-02-25 00:00:16 · 13 answers · asked by Sad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok let me go into more detail on this. Her ex husband was someone who always fought with and he used to beat her plus he did drugs. I don't do drugs and I haven't laid a hand on her out of anger but I lost my temper with her a while back and she realised that I wasn't the person she thought I was. This is the only incident that I've gotten mad at her in the 6 months we were together. I apolagised to her for yelling at her and she said ok and things were okay for a while. Then a couple weeks ago she said I had hurt her because she was afraid that I was like her ex husband. Now she doesn't want to talk to me. I know that I'm not like her ex husband and I just need a way to say sorry for hurting her and showing her.
2007-02-25 00:09:33 · update #1
I wish you would have explained the nature of the offense. But with the information you have given here you could simply apologize to her and explain that you didn't realize you were hurting her and how your going to go about avoiding doing it in the future.
Or if she isn't much of a thinker (some girls aren't) you could send her flowers with an "I'm sorry" note attached to them. Some girls eat that up. But you know your girl better than I.
2007-02-25 00:05:32 · answer #1 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you have described happens so often|
I guy does not even know, but has hurt his woman badly|
It is due to the differences in how men and woman perceive reality and take things that are said and done|
I think that what I would do is just let it be - if the relationship is right, first she will forgive, and then she will come to the realization that it was not due to any ill intent on your part, but due to pure circumstances or misunderstanding where none of you were truly at fault|
It will just fall into place naturally|
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2007-02-25 00:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what you did. You weren't very clear. Some mistakes take more work than others. For now all I can say is let your ACTIONS show you're truly sorry---talk is cheap. Also, you may wait a couple of days, pull up this site and SHOW her you're trying to get help.
2007-02-25 00:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by Duchess20 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her some space for a while, just to cool off, but dont be absent. Just be there. Let her know that you are not leaving and your waiting for the right time to talk and apologize to her. When you're apologizing, please dont smother her with gifts alone. Let her know that you are trully sorry for what you have done and explain to her that you didn't know that you were hurting her that time but your still sorry. Dont give up. Hang in there.
2007-02-25 00:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by Kreg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go over to her house and tell her to her face. Look her in the eye and apologize. People do make grave mistakes and misjudgements in life. We are human you know. Don't wait another day. Some people tend to wait too long to right a wrong.
Its better to make things right as quickly as possible or you will miss your window of opportunity. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-25 00:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly sorry than just try to tell her the best you can how you feel. Depending on what you did, she should accept your heartfelt apology. Give her some time though to get over it
2007-02-25 00:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kim♥♥Fl♪☼☺▪♦♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a heartfelt letter is a good way. asking her to meet you somewhere nice and sincerely telling her what a schmuck you were for hurting her and what a fool you were in not realizing it. Eat crow, be authentically humble, and ask her .......no, beg for her forgiveness. And DON'T DO IT AGAIN WHATEVER IT WAS THAT HURT HER!
2007-02-25 00:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her a small note of sorry in the morning with 1 white rose.. then after she read that note say it personally to her and ask her if she can forgive u.. say sorry and admit for ur self what may come to her mouth..
2007-02-25 00:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first give her some time to get over her anger, than go to her, and admit what u did hurt her, and ask her to forgive u. any person on earth would be disarmed at your confession and show of humility.
2007-02-25 00:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i can tell is that you're wasting your time in asking that question here.
if you did something to hurt her so much, you should do whatever you can do to contact her and tell her how much you're sorry honestly ASAP!
the longer you wait, the more you hurt her so GO!
2007-02-25 00:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋