ohk........i am not married but i do believe in romance , head over heels and happily ever after
but isnt happily ever after too long i mean .............how can you spend your entire life with a single person share eveyday ...sleep together ...share thoughts........secrets.........share everything..........for your entire life like the next 50 years or so
does nt it seem scary .....how do you trust somebody to stay with you and care for you ....... love you.........for a a lifetime ?????????????
2007-02-24 23:38:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know then married
2007-02-24 23:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Must not think that way...be in love...let life take you to the highest highs... nothing last forever... I was married for 13 years...he was 18 years older than I was...I thought the way you are thinking now, how can I be in this heaven for the next 50 years....he had cancer after 13 years and after we had 2 beautiful kids, he was still 48 years when he passed...I wept for 10 years...
Now my kids are older...19 and 22, I re married, I had the same luck, happy as you will not believe....but this time, I will enjoy it a day at a time. .... I will NEVER worry about the damn 50 years...I will just worry about making it always fresh, always new always a day spent is a day to remember....
I thank you for bringing those beautiful memories to life again...
marriage is not a cage, its a deep friendship...and long path...if you think you will lose anything by getting married, then don't do it.
Good luck
2007-02-25 00:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the risk of marriage and true love in general and the only way is to make a commitment and test the waters by moving in with the person you love and experiencing something that resembles married life.
I love my wife with all my sole and I never PLAN on leaving her or her leaving me.
The romance fades in any relationship and things become routine even sex at some point some days it sucks but you always have someone there that loves you and that you can trust; to trust is hard for a lot of people so when you can trust the person you love and that person trusts you with there life you know that's the person that can love you for your hole life. well that's how I see it.
2007-02-25 00:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by love less 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People want the things you are asking because they want to feel safe, secure and loved. It's not scary to go to bed every night with the same person who loves you and cares for you.
It is scary if you end up like poor hthr_1974 and don't know when the next hit might be coming and you just stay there. It is never ok to stay with someone who does that to anyone. Those men should be left lonely and sleeping alone everynight, for the rest of us we deserve all those things you have mentions. That is what love is about and that is what most people want unconditionally.
2007-02-25 00:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by riszo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be scary to have a best friend to talk to everyday? Someone to share good things with and bad things with and know they are always there for you? Sure it might not last forever but that is the chance you take with any relationship even with your best pal the one you have had for years. There are defiantly times when you feel like you need your own space or don't feel like talking and one of the great things about marriage is that you can communicate these needs and have them respected with out feeling as you have hurt someone. 50 years isn't that long and you will be happy to have someone to share your life with a witness to everything you have accomplished and celebrate your time on earth with you.
2007-02-25 02:48:34 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage isn't head-over-heels love. It's family love. A husband is someone who knows the best things about you, and the worst things about you and loves you anyway. Marriage is about knowing that you will have someone to talk to at 2 oclock in the morning, and that there will be hot chicken soup in bed when you have a cold. As you grow older, and your beauty fades, your husband remembers that you used to look sooo hot in that jean miniskirt, and he still sees you that way. Marriage is also knowing that there will be disappointments on both sides, but if you are willing, you can learn to care for each other turn those disappointments into romance because you will do things for each other for no other reason than it makes the other one happy.
2007-02-24 23:59:52 · answer #6 · answered by pennyrtyler 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is head over heels at first and then life happens. You definitely don't share every secret...your thoughts are always your own...but it is a nice kind of love where you know the person is always there for you. It is more like companionship with an extra spark I guess.
2007-02-25 00:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of women seek that white picket fence, with a great family with lots of romance and a perfect man. It's all fantasy and isn't really like that in life. If you continue to believe this is possible to obtain in your life, you are headed for one of the biggest disappointments in the history of life itself. Life with a person is all in what you make it. Marriage will take work to preserve for any length of time. Great long lasting relationships take effort, and much work in order for them to be fruitful, happy, and long lasting. Trouble with most people is they don't want to put forth the effort to maintain a marriage and move on to divorce, and go in search of the very thing that eludes them. It takes work to build a happy marriage and most people just don't put for the effort daily to accomplish this task.
2007-02-24 23:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by ash84102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 14 years and very much in love with my husband. I would have spent an enternity with him if I could have but he wouldn't stop beating the sh*t out of me. I keep up the hope that someday I will love someone like that again that doesn't hit me.
2007-02-24 23:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Loving someone is a choice and so is spending the rest of your life with that someone special that you love. It is actually quite easy and enjoyable to do so if you choose it. I know i love my husband very much and i enjoy him and being with him and doing things with him. We love being married and spending our lives together. I look forward to fifty years or longer with him. I would really miss him and be devestated if something happened that i could not spend the rest of my life loving and being with him. It is a choice of the heart.
2007-02-25 01:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know marriage sounds scary to you,but i don't think you are the type that jumps into something without knowing what you are getting into, right? so,you have to know the person well enough before marrying him and ones you're there just take things one day at a time. don't rush! you might exhaust his being and get tired of him, that fast. it would be wise to expore each other till the end of time.
2007-02-24 23:55:56 · answer #11 · answered by leo brillantes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋