the person whos pulling me down is my family members. when i argue with my brother, like saying something like "you are ugly", my mum would tell me that my brother isnt ugly so pls stop saying that of him. but when he was the one who said that about me, she would say "its ok to be ugly". WTH?.. ok so i dont understand this. when i vist my relatives, they would all praise my brother like OH YOU ARE VERY TALL NOW. YOU ARE NOW HANDSOME. oh do you know how hurt i feel? i am a girl i am 5'1 and my brother is only 5'3 i dont think that is VERY TALL. nobody bothers about me nobody ever praise me before. when i tried defending myself by saying my friends told me i was pretty, nobody believed me. i now dont have the courage to make any new friends. when guys approached me i would walk away because i was afraid that he would say something unpleasant to me. :(
2007-02-24 23:34:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, let me tell you something girl, personally i like wowmen who are between 5' and 5'5"... as far as your brother goes he is a bit short for anyone to be calling tall.... i don't know what your weight is or your hair color, or your eye color.... but i am sure i could help your self esteem..... good luck...
2007-02-25 00:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that it is that way at your house. If I were in your shoes, I'd feel badly too. In fact, you're probably the prettiest of them all, and they're jealous, so they put you down.
For real... just like in the Cinderella story with the evil step-sisters. Remember, Cinderella didn't think she was pretty enough to go to the ball. It isn't easy, but it would do you a world of good to move out. Is that going to happen anytime soon? I don't know how old you are.
Until then, stay away from them until you feel better. I mean, like, get a job and be at work a lot, or take up activities to get you out of the house legitimately, and find a new family in your friends who will accept you, protect you, and love you for just being you.
There are a lot of parents who do a really horrible job and most of those kids are the youth of today that the very same people are complaining are a bunch of brats, spoiled little selfish pratts. Maybe your brother will be one of them? Maybe you won't?
You seem to know right from wrong, and that what is happening is wrong. That sounds like a person who has her sh-- together and head
screwed on tightly. Your self esteem sounds fine; but I think your feelings are terribly hurt.
It doesn't sound like you can talk to these people about how you feel and what they do. But maybe you could write in a letter and really mail it to your mum and other relies to read.
Good luck. God bless.
2007-02-24 23:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep - you have self esteem issues.... the first thing you need to do is stop looking for other people to tell you something you should already know. You are pretty, special, and deserve praise - so - they are the ones with the problem. Wake up in the morning and look at yourself in the mirror and praise yourself. If you wait around for people to give you anything chances are you won't get it. So give it to yourself.
and FYI - when guys approach you they aren't ganna say something mean, if they were, then they would not have approached you. Just remember you are responsible for your own self esteem...
2007-02-24 23:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by andrealisset 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See in the adventure that your melancholy is intense sufficient that it demands medical care by skill of a expert. nonetheless, there are countless procedures to validly advance vanity to a healthy variety. Accomplishment and success are 2. by skill of placing functional objectives to realize issues that are easily of interest to you, then going for those objectives, you have taken the 1st step in the direction of lowering melancholy and construction vanity. in the adventure that your objective-placing is functional, and you stay centred and disciplined, you have a great danger of accomplishing your objectives. mutually as you won't attain all your objectives (except you have set them too low), you will easily make achievements that build self-self belief and journey. This has a great danger of working. in case you think of you're an unsightly individual, you would be very particular approximately what you think of is grotesque. Write those issues down alongside with the excuses why you think of those issues make you grotesque. Write down the failings approximately your self you think of are captivating. This you are able to have others assist you to with. you additionally can ask them what they think of of a number of the failings you think of are grotesque - with out telling them you think of those issues are grotesque. there may well be procedures to advance some issues. as an occasion, once you're obese, you ought to start up a calorie-counting undertaking and shrink each and on a daily basis caloric intake. you additionally can start up a reasonable exercising and weight-reduction plan application via books on the project. no remember if obese or not, you get to show. this would be a great danger for objective-placing and success as properly. good good fortune!
2016-10-16 11:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say in life no-one messes with your head more than one's parents. Everybody goes through this to some extent. You will grow through this and your insecurities will shrink as you become more confident with age. It's a passing time in your life, nothing stays the same forever. All the best.
2007-02-24 23:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by florrie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surround yourself with people who see you as beautiful and who love you for the person inside. And as long you make yourself think you look fine, nobody else can tell you otherwise.
2007-02-25 01:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by redswirlsonblack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes parents treat siblings differently depending on their age, but im sure your beautiful anyways, why dont you visit a makeup counter for a free makeover and advice?!
2007-02-24 23:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by Hannah 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
remember.. everyone is created unique... you may also be higher or lower than others... but what matters is how you use what you have for good also remember that GOD created you with such abilities, looks or character... that can be nurture ... or discovered...
2007-02-24 23:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by hypnosis_31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pamper yourself, in thoughts, word and deeds.
2007-02-25 04:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Marke Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋