My baby cries. Am I a terrible parent???

Question

my sister told me that if your baby ever ever ever cries it's becos you are killing it and good mothers have babies that never ever cry. My baby is 6 weeks old now and she cries every day!!!! What am i doing wrong?? was i 2 young to have a baby at 14

Answer 1

Just because your baby cries doesn't make you a bad parent. That is the only way the baby has to communicate. Why is a 14 year old having a baby?????????

Answer 2

Your sister is retarded (sorry) to tell you that, and maybe just trying to make you feel bad. NO! you are absolutely not a bad parent if your baby cries!! Every baby in the entire world cries at least once every day and most babies cry off and on all day! And there are babies out there that have something called Colic where the baby will cry for 4-6 hours at a time for no reason and it isn't the parent's fault. I do think you were too young to have a baby at 14 because you don't have the vital knowledge you need, but don't be afraid to seek help, and i would stay away from your sister... she obviously was being very mean to say something like that to u. I think of myself as a great parent and i would say my son spends at least an hour or two whining/crying every day just cuz he can. You are doing great, and again don't be afraid to seek help with any questions- don't be afraid to ask. better to be safe than sorry yeah? keep up the good work and ignore your sister.

Answer 3

Babies cry, it is the only way they have to communicate. (How old is your sister?) You may have been too young at 14, but not much you can do about it now. Go to the library and check out some books about parenting. Talk to your mom about your fears and ask for some advice. It'll be okay. You are not killing your baby. You are not doing anything wrong. Just respond to your baby's cries in a loving way. See if the baby is hungry, needs to be changed, etc. Do the best you can and ask for lots of help.

Check out this website.
http://www.youngmommies.com/
Also see if there are any local parenting or young mom groups that you can attend. This will give you an opportunity to meet other mothers and receive more information about parenting.

Best wishes and take care.

Answer 4

Yes, you probably were too young to have a baby at 14, but that's not why your baby is crying.

A baby can't talk. Their only form of communication is crying. ALL HEALTHY BABIES CRY--every single one. Crying does not mean a baby is unhappy or unhealthy--it's means it's a baby :P It also does not mean a parent is a bad parent.

Now, how you respond to your baby's cries, and how she responds to your efforts, IS important. A bad parent ignores their baby's cries, or attempts to punish the child for it. A good parent will try to evaluate the situation, guess what is wrong that is causing the baby to cry, and try to fix it (ie, is the baby wet, hungry, tired, in pain?). If the baby responds well to your attempts--is comforted by your cuddling, quiets after their diaper is changed, etc--then this is a normal, healthy response for both mother and baby. If the baby is inconsolable, their may be something wrong (for example, the child may have acid reflux and be in pain, so that there is little you can do) or the baby may have colic--which there is no way to 'cure', you just have to wait it out.

In short--the fact that a baby cries does not make someone a bad parent. Babies cry, that's what they do. It's how you respond to that crying that determines your parental skills.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Hi, I don`t think you are a terrible parent but having a baby at 14 is a bit young don`t you think ? Sometimes babies cry without any reason it is normal. Some babies cry a lot some don`t at all, some don`t sleep long, and some can sleep all day.don`t worry about your baby crying so much. May be she/he is hungry or wet or needs his/hers mum to be next to. Try to be around your baby a lot.
On the other hand having a baby at 14 is way too young. How did your parents react?If your parents (especially mum) are understanding, talk to them may be they will tell you how to be a good mother and carry on school.
Hope you will find the answer to your question that suits you!

Answer 6

having a baby that cries is perfectly normal - some babies cry a lot. some cry not too much.
usually when you have a 6 week old baby who is crying a lot it is 1 of 2 things:
1- collic, a normal condition for newborns that makes them more "sensitive"
2- a problem digesting the type of formula/milk they are having

you might try burping your baby 2-3 times for each feeding, rocking her, wraping her in a tight blanket and holding her, a swing, a bouncy chair, or what is called white noise - a running vaccuum or no station tv channel. if these don't work, talk to her dr about switching to soy formula.

ps you are not a bad mom, and it's not because you are 14, all new moms of all ages often feel this way, and take time to learn how to calm their first born!

Answer 7

No affence but your sister seems to be a rude inconciderate *bleep * HOW in the world can she tell you that?? NO that's not true your NOT killing your baby and i'm sure your dong just fine!! there can be MANY reasons a baby cries. it could have colic or may be on the wrong formula or may have gas and you can give it mylicon(sp?) gas drops to help.. it may even just want to be held!! I'd like to say that I was a GREAT mother and my daughter DID cry not all the time but every cry has a "fix it" to it. don't worry and DON'T go to her for advice anymore!! how old is she?? does she have any babies of her own? if she does i'm SURE you've heard a cry come out of them at some point in time.

keep doing what your doing and ASK YOUR DR. for advice not your sis..

if you EVER need some help from someone on what to do I am part of a GREAT group of pregnant mom's/ young mom's/ and just momms all together at http://forum.baby-gaga.com/

feel free to join my name is aimeesmom04 on there get ahold of me when you join so that i know it's you!! i'm on there all the time

:*:Kayla:*:

Answer 8

You are definitely too young to think about having a baby or doing anything that would make you have a baby, but you unfortunately have one. The fact that your baby cries every day does not make you a bad mother, neither does it make your baby a bad baby. So don't worry so much about the baby crying every day, after all it helps the baby develop his/her vocal cords. Just make sure you do your absolute best for the baby on daily basis.

Answer 9

hello friend,
To tell you the truth you are not a bad parent,it is wrong to think that if your baby cries you are abad parent.The only thing that is going wrong with you and your child is That you are not trying to understand what she/he saying.
Crying is the only means for the babies to communicate so by crying the baby is trying to tell you something.So first stop thinking about being bad parent,if you are not able to answer to her/his need the crying will be there.
I also has gone through this process of crying child so dont worry about it,you CAN stop this by understanding her/his cries.
You may think How can I know for what the baby is crying.This how you can do
1.keep the baby in routine,this should be according to your daily schedule yours and baby should not clash.All should be insink with each other.
EXAMPLE:morning 7.30 :baby feeds
8.00-9.00:sleeps
9.00 gets up play
9.30:play
so on soo forth
in the above when she sleeps you have your own time.
2.The above routine will help you to interprete for what the baby is crying and you can act accordingly.
FOR EXAMPLE:if baby cries at 8.00 you know that its its time to sleep you can put her/him to sleep.
This helps you a lot and will give you a lot of time to do your work.
Dont be in a hurry so take your time please one more thing never check the clock,like if baby is still playing even when its time to sleep leave her/him,if it becomes 8.10 also,when the baby cries only lift him/her up.This will help you to stop the fighting process of making her/him to sleep.
You are not doing wrong,you are may be too young but you had a baby so dont look back and cry about it.Be brave move forward,you take the help of other moms when you are in trouble.
BEST OF LUCK
happy parenting

Answer 10

Oh, you poor thing, I had my son when I was 16 and he cried alot.
Your sister has absolutely NO IDEA what she is talking about. Babies cry for lots of different reasons- it is how they communicate. It is a bit hit and miss, think of all the reasons why he might be crying, is he hungry, tierd, bored, does he have wind or does his nappy need changing. Perhaps you could try taking him to the doctors if you think he might be ill.
14 is young to have a baby but it dosen´t automatically mean that you will be a bad parent, there are plenty of older mothers who are bad parents. Your sister should be ashamed of herself.
Good Luck Honey x Email me if you need to chat x