when I first met my husband 10yr ago he never told me he had a child.When I got married I found out he had a 16 yr old son and the mom has three other children with different men besides him.My sister in law told me that they were meant to be together though he had stopped seeing her over 10 yr prior due to her cheatting .My sister in law also told me that her other children's dads never stayed with her so my husband must step in to be their dad.All through our six yr marriage she kept on telling me what a traditional catholic this woman is ...she also bragged that she is seeing a married man she does not love to pay her rent .my sister in law said she finds this fasanating that when she wants a child she can find a donor and when she wants rent oaid she can find a man to do it for her .I went to a catholic all girls scholl and don't know anyone of my friends who ever walked around saying we were holy...but now that their not private my sister in law is bragging that this woman can ..
2007-02-24 22:40:22 · 6 answers · asked by HAPA CHIC 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
send her kids to one .Also when we were just married since my husband could not afford it my dad paid for my wedding and I paid for our honeymoon...my sister in law told her friend who decided to come up to me and tell me I am taking away money that should be going to this woman to support her kids ! My sister in laws excuse now after six yrs when I finally had enough was that she never meant those things that my husband confrinted her with though it went on for yrs.Her last words to me is that since we did not marry in a catholic church the priest won't baptise my baby yet the catholic church baptised that womans children whose never been married and has had it with different men .I did tell my husband from the beggining he should of told me the situation but he claims if he did I would not marry him .
2007-02-24 22:44:08 · update #1
So what is the question? Your sister in-law is a pain in the *** and your husband kept a secret from you. There is nothing for you TO DO
2007-02-24 22:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for starters your husband should have been honest and let you make that choice.the sister-in-law thing she is just mad because it was not her friend that got her brother but even if she had of it would have changed things and they might not be so friendly any more.your husband is responseable for HIS child only not all the others that this woman is trying to push at him so put your foot down with all of them.relocation would probably do wonders for your marriage if it were possible.all in all you are the only one who has the power to stop this,tell your husband that he will tend to his child ONLY,tell the family to either respect your family that you have made or stay away and they can not be a part of it.your husband must back you on this.if the church will not babtize your child but did the other children I would find a church that was worth going to as this would not be the one for me.think carefully of what you expect and then make it happen or this family will continue walking all over you.good luck
2007-02-25 07:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by angel_ns_texas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sis in law is sick twisted you get the point.I had a cousin who flirted and ended up with the man i love when we were only friends.She was secretly married to boot.She strung him along then dumped him blaming him.Yet he thinks shes an angel and that just gets to me.Seems like your husband has a soft spot and your sister in law,her friend know of it and exploit it.Tell your husband this is it you wont take any crap from him,his sister,her friend anymore.Stop paying money which has to go to your child.Have another ceremony to remarry or renew ur vows and honeymoon this time have ur husband pay for it.Tell your sister in law to shut up and buzz off.Same goes for her friend.Just act like u dont care whatever sister in law or her friend say.Ignore them.As for ur husband let him do these things to prove to you his wife and child.
2007-02-25 07:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by getomorrowforme 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
move away from your "sister-in-law" sounds like she's tryin to ruin your marriage. You need to sit down and talk to your husband about everything! You can baptise your child in another church. Don't sweat it, in the eyes of God, we are all the same.
2007-02-25 11:13:02 · answer #4 · answered by brokenheart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's unfortunate that your husband has kept this secret. but you have two choices either deal with it and move on, or leave him. as for your sister-n-law she should just mind her own business and your husband needs to tell her that. if he doesn't you should. sounds like a mess, and you need someone to talk to. good luck!
2007-02-25 06:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're Catholic you need to explain this to a priest and get his input. This is the best way to go.
God bless.
2007-02-26 17:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Danny H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋