I stupidly got involved with my married boss who is also 24 years older than me. I ended it when I heard his wife was seriously ill. Since then, he has been throwinghis weight around at work and generally mistreating me. He has been two faced and has lied and now I believe he is still cheating on his wife with someone else again. Furthermore, an employer who I gave his details to as a reference has now gotten rid of me. I don't know why they only just now asked for a reference but he he obviously lied to make me lose my job. I have been to ACAS about what to do if he tries to lose me the job we are at together as I want to stay there. I have a new potential boyfriend and am not interested in the ex but seeing as he cannot be professional I was considering telling his wife what she is married to and talking to the MD of my company. His wife should know as he is doing things so she won't get her fair share when they divorce and he has accused her of things I don't believe.
2007-02-24 22:15:09 · 9 answers · asked by Little One 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I no longer use him as a reference. I had hm on a job application back when we were still together.
I think I was probably his midlife crisis but I strongly believe his wife should know. He is trying to deny her what he will owe her. He is also claiming she is overbearing and physically abusive when as a security boss who is very big I don't believe for one moment he can't defend himself and I don't believe her either.
He wanted to keep seeing me while she was being treated for cancer, the rat!
2007-02-24 22:22:31 · update #1
GMomma, I don't want to hurt his wife. I would have already told her if I had thought it wouldn't hurt her. But she deserves the truth and all the times he was laughing at her behing her back telling me, "Oh, she was quizzing me again.." so she doesn't feel she is mad; so she knows she was rigt all along and can get her fair share when they divorce.
Also, I didn't know they were married til afte we got together; he said they were divorced. I found out later and then ended it the moment she got diagnosed with cancer.
2007-02-24 22:25:20 · update #2
First of all, when we got together he told me he was divorced. Second of all, his wife was not ill when we met. As soon as he told me she'd just been diagnosed with cancer, I ended it with him and told him to support her and the kids.
2007-02-25 04:09:02 · update #3
TELL HIS WIFE...She probably will stick by him but at least she will know what a scumbag husband she has.
Find a web page to out cheating husbands and if there isn´t one then let us make one.
NAME AND SHAME
2007-02-24 22:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by MI5 WANNABE 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you found out he was married which I believe you knew, you should have left hot pants alone then. He's not the only rat here. YOU ARE TOO. If you lose your job then that will be your come around. If you was still sleeping with the dirty old man then you wouldn't be complaining about him. You and him both should be thrown out on your ear. Neither one of you have any respect. You need to keep your mouth closed, before that wife close it for you. Now things aren't working out the way you like for it too, you have all of a sudden became concern about the wife.You are a rat.You say he's not professional, well neither are you with your dress over your head, playing office wh0re for a senior citizen. I hope when you go to talk to his wife she take that news back to the company and both of you get fired. You are self fish, immoral, disrespectful, loose, liar, cheater and your current boyfriend better watch out for you. YOU CAN"T BE TRUSTED. Can you sleep at night knowing you are a mattress for pops?
2007-03-02 23:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, it was you who slept with him. You knew he was married. That was the first mistake. Now because you got the shi**y end of the stick, you want to hurt the wife??? She never did anything to you. I think you should put your tail between your legs, and get away from there. Next time, remember if he is married, then it isn't worth the hassel. You will be the one holding the bag in the end.
2007-02-25 06:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what happens when you get involved with married man. They do not respect women.
Anyhow. can you not just cut your lossess and move on, you said his wife was seriously ill.
2007-02-25 06:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one. If I were you, I wouldn't use him as a reference. But other than that, I'd leave him alone; apparently he has his own issues, and isn't worth wasting time and effort on.
2007-02-25 06:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would def let her know just dont be too suprised if she is not thrilled with you or what you have to say. But you are right she does have a right to know!!!
2007-03-02 22:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by mominkansas03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just stay out of it. That would be the best thing to do. Sorry about your troubles.
2007-02-25 06:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by LauraLynn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wawoo, very intelligent woman , But Never do that...
Take this advice, " Do not be kiddie with the kid who almost all the day Kidding"
2007-02-25 06:21:55 · answer #8 · answered by sherif 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are experiencing the beauty of karma.
2007-02-25 06:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋