we met before 10 months. my dad and her dad are good friends and we are also from same community. Within this last 10 months she started to love me but there is no such emotions in me towards her, Even i told her same thing when she told me "I love you" before around 5 months. she is bit different from my dream person. Now her emotions is severe towards me. She tells she lives only for me even i have no emotions towards her. Please advice me what should i do? Should i accept her proposal and marry her even though i dont love her. Families tell that love can happen after marrige also. but last decision on me only. please tell me what should i do?
2007-02-24 22:01:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. Big fat no.
Unless it's an arranged marriage, you have a choice - yes or no.
Don't marry her.
End it. You could be blissfully happy with her in the end, but you're far more likely to be miserable, resentful, and unfulfilled, always pondering that eternal "what if..."
Run!
2007-02-24 22:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Awakey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been seeing this person for 10 months, but you say you have no feelings for her. I think you should break off the relationship, as marriage is hard enough when one does having feelings for their partner. To enter into marriage with mix feelings, or none at all towards the other person, is a sure recipe for disaster. In the end neither of you will be happy. As for the person of your dreams, no such individual exists. If you look for perfection, then look only in your mirror because that is where you will find it, but you know that you are not perfect, so seek not what you yourself are not.
2007-02-24 22:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by coolcatcanada 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u still dont have any emotions for her even after she told u her feelings then leave it, leave her, if u have a good friend (girl)other than her, and whom she dont know, tell ur friend to help u out, to talk to her or even u can say u both r in love just for the sake of it.
Dont worry everything will be alright
2007-02-24 23:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're really getting off on this aren't you, your ego is so huge over this it's practically jumping off the page. Look Romeo if you don't love the girl then don't marry her, and also stop using her (which is obviously what you are doing).
Let her go, she deserves to find someone that will love her and not just use her. Stop stringing her along jerk, she deserves a lot better than this so let her go.
2007-02-24 22:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by WhooHoo! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u don't love her, maybe you just leave her. this could turn ugly, b-cause the routine and everything in a marriage. If u have no feelings 4 her, then you should not start with her yet. Trust me, is the best ! She may suffer, u 2 ! Think again ..... There are plenty of fishes in the sea, not just this one ...
2007-02-24 22:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love her then accepting her proposal would be a very bad idea. Tell her that you don't feel you're ready to take that step so soon in the relationship.
Whatever you do, don't just say "I can't marry you". She'll take it the wrong way.
2007-02-24 22:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Saint_clark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being such a spineless jerk and tell her the honest truth already. You have wasted enough of her time by giving her false hope.
2007-02-24 22:25:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have known each other for 5 months and feel no love for her you shouldn't marry this girl and waste your whole life being miserable. Find someone who you have love, respect and feelings for and can maintain a good friendship for a lifetime with each other. It's worth it.
2007-02-24 22:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by friendly face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No dont marry her, its not fair on her or you. Leave it a while but if u dont feel any spark then u might need to leave her because the longer u stay with her the harder it will be
2007-02-24 22:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will sugest you not to run away from her instead try to give her as much as time you can try to be frank and be a good friend of her in this way u two will know each other and it may be that u fall in love with her or she realises that she isnt your type of girl. becareful dont take any decision in hurry jus give time to your relation to develop.
2007-02-24 22:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by rajdey1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋