We are a family with 2 small children, 3 & 7 and rent a room out to a lodger in our house. Our recent lodger moved in 2 weeks ago and we are not too happy with her. She is pleasant and nice BUT she is really into clubbing and I was woken up by her and her b/f on Fri at 1.30am until they left again at 3am! Although they were not horribly noisy, they were noisy enough to wake me. Last night, she got up at 2am to go out clubbing and again I was woken up whilst she moved about getting ready. I am not sure what to do but I do need to sleep as I am up at 7am with the kids!
She also helps herself to our foodstuffs. It is always, can I borrow a little of this? but it is now going on everyday and I wonder why she does not buy stuff herself?
To top it all we are still waiting for the rent in advance. She said that her bank messed up the transfer and the money should be with is sometime this week.
Any advice? Should we just get rid of her now or give her a chance after a chat?
2007-02-24 21:48:41 · 16 answers · asked by Stephanie C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get rid or you will regret it sooner rather than later.
2007-02-25 07:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by brommas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this doesn't bode well for the future does it. She's only been here two weeks and stays out half the night, eats your food an ddoesn't pay her rent?
Ask yourself honestly - if someone told you about this problem, what would you advise? My betting is that you would advise them to sit the lodger down, demand the rent within 24 hours, lay down the law about the hours she keeps and also about contributing to the foodstuffs she takes. You have the upper hand in this, remember.
I'm afraid it sounds like you're going to read her the riot act, do this and be strong. If necessary, show her the door. You are losing nothing!
2007-02-25 08:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a potential predicament with lodgers, as they don't always appreciate the property of lifestyle of those people who are kind enough to let them lodge. This is why it's so important to establish basic ground rules right from the start. In this situation, I would be inclined to have a polite but firm chat with your lodger, while issuing the verbal equivalent of a yellow card. Any repeat offence in the future will merit a red card and... off you go! Make yourself perfectly clear.
Best wishes, J
2007-02-25 06:26:56 · answer #3 · answered by sirjulian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you ask her to leave depends on how much you need the extra cash. She needs to be reminded that you have kids and perhaps you should lay down a few ground rules. But if she doesn't pay her rent, then you are quite right to ask her to go. Me and my ex took in a lodger years ago and i have to say that i didn't feel comfortable sharing our house with a stranger and we didn't have any kids at the time. In the end, we asked him to go and then months later i read a report in a local paper about how he had been accused of rape ! Was i glad he had gone.
2007-02-25 08:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by chelsea19622000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd have a chat - if her clubbing is so important to her, she's not going to give it up and it would be better if she moves on.
As for the food, - why don't you increase her rent a bit and just feed her?
I have to admit, it would only be dire financial necessity that would make me take on a lodger, when I have small children. It's unfair on you.
2007-02-25 08:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave before she signs any agreement, tell her that things are not working out and you don't want your house treated like a hotel during the early hours of the morning, it's unreasonable behaviour. If this is what she is like in the early days then she will take more liberties the more she settles in. Also it's unreasonable for her boyfriend to be there, I mean you don't know what strangers she could bring at night.
2007-02-25 06:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Easy there tigers!!!!
Good lodgers are hard to find.
You've said she's nice an pleasant, talk to her. Everyone should get one chance, lay down the ground rules, an be firm.
But don't just axe the lodger.
And get payed, its not a charity.
Good luck with everything. ; )
2007-02-25 05:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would just tell her that things aren't working out as well as you had hoped (explain why) and give her a period of time, say a month to see if things improve. Put something in writing to that effect, don't forget to get her to sign it. I don't hold out much hope for change though, don't forget this is going to be her lifestyle, she may change for a while, but in the long term I think I see trouble.
2007-02-25 05:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by JillPinky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She has only been there for 2 weeks. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt, assume that I didn't explain my expectations to her well enough, and give her another chance. Sit her down, explain that late-night noise is to stop immediately, likewise the "borrowing" of your food, and that she will have to find other accommodations immediately if another rent payment is late.
2007-02-25 06:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time for a long chat i guest. if she is that young than more talking to regarding bad habits is a great idea espcially when you have children in your house. Give her a warning of maybe 2 weeks than take your action.Good luck
2007-02-25 06:11:57 · answer #10 · answered by SANTA A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave. If she is not making an effort from the offset, then it is likely she well get worse; particularly if you are allowing her to get away with taking you for granted!
2007-02-25 05:52:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋