Why does she care?

Question

I have a long time highschool friend that is overweight. I too could stand to lose some more weight. Over the last year, I lost 85 pounds by watching my diet and walking. Anyways this friend and I go to this certain chat room, we've posted our pics. However lately, this friend, has been secretly telling others in the chat room that I'm bigger than she is, when infact I'm not. I weigh 160 and she weighs 249. She also claims that I'm not that small and tries to start arguements about this. I think this is petty and I ask her why does she care?! She claims that I am making her look bad. Yet she says things like "I don't need to impress anyone." If she doesn't then why spread lies about me? Tonight we had a bad arguement, she said horrible things to me and I did her. I doubt after all this that the friendship can be saved. I have put up with a lot from her over the years ,trying to look past the things shes done to me. I don't know why she is so into my weight--what should i do?

Thanks for all the positive feedback--its much appreciated!

Answer 1

She's just jealous that you had better results than you, but of course she'll never admit it. The fact that you did it reminds her that she couldn't do it. It makes her mad, so she expresses it by acting hostile toward you to upset you and making it look like you didn't do as well as you did. If she's not supportive and happy for you then I think it's time to move on. you did a good job losing that weight and any real friend would be proud.

Answer 2

Leave her alone. Really. She has issues she can only resolve on her own; the fact that you've been successful and she hasn't is just rubbing it in. As to what she's saying about you: Let others who actually know you discover the facts on their own. Besides, weight isn't everything; attitude counts more, in my book.

Answer 3

tell her to kiss off she jelous of you if you way 160 i think your just right you lost 85 great job you should be prode of your self.You have a great day