How should i reply to him?

Question

My boyfriend has been stressed out with his job lately. He asked me to give him some space to sort his situation out. He explained to me that he does not feel well at his job right now, he had a fight with his boss,who refused to promote him. He works long hours and in the evenings he's applying for new jobs.he asked me for support, unerstanding that he needs to focus right now. He's even applying for a job near my city. We should meet 2 weeks later. The problem is I became needy of him and wanted to talk about our relationship, which upset him as he said he is so exhausted and I always need to talk about us. He said he does not feel supported. I said I am sorry but he replied to me that over the last months I always say sorry like usual but he said if I realise that im loosing him more and more? What should I do? How should I reply please?

Answer 1

First, put him on the back burner. Sounds like he honestly needs space or is pushing you away for a reason. Either way, you need to just take time for yourself. Think more about what you want in life and how to do that with or without him. Do more for yourself, by yourself or with girlfriends.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I can understand what he is going through but I also sympathise with you. I was going through major problems with work, it stressed me out so much that I didn't even want to think about a relationship. It was a real shame as I had just met this lovely girl but because I was so stressed, I just couldn't face her and the relationship just petered out.
My advice is to give him some space. I can understand how hard that will be for you as you need him, but you risk the relationship ending if you put any more pressure on him. Try and find a friend or family member that you can rely on to talk to until your boyfriend sorts his situation out. It sounds like you really like him so just be patient - it will be worth it in the end. Once he's sorted his job out I'm sure things will improve between you. Remember that we spend more time at work in a week than doing anything else and if we are not happy it starts to impact on everything else we do. Sojust give him a little time. Play Patience by Take That, it might inspire you to give him that space!
Good luck.

Answer 3

Two things here; he wants space and then he is saying he wants support its all him and never mind how you feel a relationship is a two way thing.
The other is give him the space and see what happens but dint give him months on end as you have a life to live too. Things cant just stop for him or cause he says so.

Oh some men are hard work but if you love him then wait but if you don't really then just get up and go. Its up to you really

Good luck

Answer 4

Listen to him!

Give him some space and be supportive. he's having these walls crashing down on him and he's doing everything he can to fix it. i'm sure he wants to be with you, but talking about it is something he doesn't need right now. it's just one more thing on his mind. i know you think the fact he doesn't want to deal with that is bad, but it's NOT!!

just wait for him to figure out his job situation. send him a short email everyday saying you're still here for him and keep wishing him luck. if he's applying to a job in your city you should be happy b/c he's thinking about you too!

but seriously give him space, even if he wants to be with you if you are persistant and force the conversation you'll overload his brain and he won't give you an answer you will like. he'll tell you it's over b/c he can't take it.... just so you'll go away, when in truth he really wants to be with you (after things settle of course..)



if you love him, give him space and when he's not so stressed out i'm sure things will be fine. if he didn't love you, he would have already ended it and stopped talking to you

Answer 5

put your talks about the relationship on hold ,he is stressed at work and is unhappy but he is looking for new ones and plus if he is looking to be near you thats nice.
Ask when is a good time to call him ,and when you do talk about positive things like i can't wait to see you in 2 weeks time and general stuff.Maybe send him a nice gift to let him know you are thinking of him.maybe you could look for some better jobs and let him know what you had found. While he is like this just keep everything to do with him as casual as you can

Once all the job hunting is done and new job found hopefully he will be back to the b/f you know .

Answer 6

If he is stressed with ohter things, the more you push him about your relationship, the more he is going to shun you. Stop talking about the relationship and support him for the moment.

He has told you plain and clear that you need to stop hassling him about it, so help him instead.

I know its hard to keep your feelings on the back burner for now, and its hard not knowing his true intentions, but when someone is stressedwith one thing, they dont need something else on top of it. Let him sort his job out. He will be much happeir and in more of a place to sort the relationship.

Answer 7

just chill out sister!!!! your boyfriend has been open and honest with you stop stressing him even more. Feel secure in your relationship and give him space think of him and not of yourself and whilst you have some free time do the things you have wanted to do enjoy your own company catch up with friends dont be too obssesive in your relationship

Answer 8

All you can do is give him the space he needs. . .but i can understand your stress as he tells you he wants space. . . then says he wants support! i would be confused to!
Just go with the flow, he will come round in his own time then you can both get on with your lives! good luck! xx

Answer 9

I know its hard ,but give him some space,even if its only 24hours before you contact him.Just to check he is OK.Maybe he should take some holiday leave to think his job situation trough.

Answer 10

Just loose him, it is all about him, his job,his promotion ect.