A guy friend and I became more than just friends to the point where everyone we worked with thought we were really dating.We were only suppose to be friends with benefits.But hanging with him everyday I caught feelings for him&him making promises to me didn't help the fact either.I wound up getting the feeling that he was sleeping with someone else that we worked with.One night he went home early so we didn't hangout that night.So,I decided to go to a park, where we normally went for some "action",to just chill out since it was a nice calm place.When I went there I saw one of the ladys cars from work out there&shortly after I got there they left.Next day he came to my house&slapped me&said I was following him.I didn't talk to him for bout a wk or so even after he apologized.Then things went back to how they were&before I moved he was still talking about being with me,but I have heard he was w/somebody else.So I quit talking to him again&the other day he txt me wanting to still have sex
2007-02-24 20:45:36 · 14 answers · asked by gababygrl10583_912 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Thanks everyone who has given feedback and what not. I am no longer anywhere near him and haven't been for over 3months now. I'm in Hawaii and he is in Ga. I'll be back in Ga. sometime this year though. And since I've been here I've done a hell of a lot of thinking. So, I don't plan on being with him anymore. Not even friends...even though I can't totally steer clear of him since he is my best friends brother. She's told me he was bad news too. But sometimes it takes someone to take that step back themself and look back on things for them to figure out things on their own. And that is what I have done. I'm just gonna work on "me" for awhile. Not gonna worry about any kind of relationships other then the relationships I have with my fam and friends. In due time"Mr. Right"will come along. ...the text I recieved was him asking me,after a week of not texting each other,was"you don't wanna even be friends with me anymore?".I told him"why be friends with someone you can't trust?!"...etc.
2007-02-25 19:43:33 · update #1
It sound like all he's interested in is a sexual relationship and you obviously need more because of the feeling you've developed for him. Bottom line: don't do this to yourself, don't allow some guy that can never feel the same way to rip your heart out. Don't even answer his tex and try to avoid his calls or chance meeting at parks and everything else concerning him. The slap should have told it all; "he's not worth it and you don't deserve to be treated like a hooker!" Good luck and don't worry because there's always one better then the last!
2007-02-24 21:08:25 · answer #1 · answered by MedicineWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that being friends with benefits, still means that you are sleeping with whoever he or she is sleeping with or in this case, screwing. Hey come on, If you want more than the friendship deal than work it out. If not, don't get mad when he see's you spying on him having sex with some MILF in the park. Granted he should not have slapped you, that is a little gay! he should not have said anything, unless you brought it up then confronted you for having prying eyes.
2007-02-25 04:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by knucklehead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a question of who's right or wrong. The fact is; you were "friends with benefits" and that's all it was. You may have developed feelings for him but it's only about sex to this guy. I won't even get into the fact that he slapped you. Move on.
2007-02-25 04:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mary R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both were. You should think hard about what he brings to your life. Is it joy and happiness or drama and headache?
That should help you decide what to do about keeping him in your life. Also, if you can find a different place to work, or stay more to yourself it might be benificial. If you had a co-worker who know you two were in some kind of relationship and she still slept with him, she is just nasty and disrespectful. Try to surround yourself with positive people.
2007-02-25 04:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget him. all he wants is sex. and he shouldnt have slapped you in the first place. A real man doesnt hit a women. If he slapped me , I would have slapped him right back. No it wasnt your fault. Heres a hint. NEVER date someone that u work with, it usually doesnt work out too well. Good luck!!! and stay away from him.
2007-02-25 04:52:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bandice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he text you he was only looking to get some lovin'. Any man that will physically abuse you is not worth your time, and besides that a man that isn't even faithful to you. Just cut your loses and start looking for someone new, someone who will be boyfriend material and treat you how you deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Life is too short to waste your time with someone who is just using you.
2007-02-25 06:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by juniper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't completely believe you about your reason for going to that particular place, I think you were intending to "spy" on him, but whatever --- he has no right to slap you. Have nothing to do with this loser, friends with privileges can work , but the key is that you are true friends which means respect and concern for the other person -- he obviously has no respect for you.
2007-02-25 04:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by jazzman6812 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you need to grow up. Secondly, he's using you, why can't you see that? He slapped you and you still want to have something to do with him? What planet are you on? He's having his cake and eating it. If you have any self respect you'll ditch him and find someone who actually gives a S##t about you.
2007-02-25 04:50:57 · answer #8 · answered by Minniex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from someone who knows, he is using you sweetie. Move on and thank God you didn't get married this would make things worse. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too, don't let him! Just move on he is not worth it.
2007-02-25 04:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by kawasakigpx 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ah come girl cop on to your self get an a life ha ain't worth it he is only in it for the sex ever hear of aids?
2007-02-25 05:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋