I have had a boyfriend for the past year and a half and I'm getting tired of lieing to my parents so I wanna know a nice way to break it to them.My step-dad has convinced my mom that gay people are bad I know she won't really care but he would make my life worse. And before all thoose Jesus and god people break in saying Im wrong I am a taoist so to me jesus was just a guy but my parents are catholic
2007-02-24 20:24:48 · 6 answers · asked by markisemo 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, may I tell you my experiance? Then I can try to give you good advice, plus, share the story of a freind for your benifit.
When I came out, I was 26. And I didn't tell my dad first either, cause i knew it would be bad. I had called my biological mother(I was adopted) but, anyways, I called her, and we talked. I hung up, with her, then thaught, Oh No. So, I called my dad. The line was busy, so, I knew then, that he knew. He did tell me, that he was very displeased, and that he didn't raise me that way. To this day, he wont talk about it. But, you know, I have to live.
Back in highschool, I had an acquantance, he was gay, and he had a thing going with another student. the other students parents found out, it was very bad. He commited suicide. I think about randy, to this day.
But, listen! You are an indavidual. If your Dad loves you, He will show it. If he tries to change you, control your feelings, or shuts of emotional bonds with you in the event he finds out, then that is not true love. But, don't be afraid. I have little to do with my dad, now, for 15 years. But I still have to live, be happy, and enjoy life.
But, hey, kiddo. I hope for the best for you. Whatever happens though, love yourself, never have guilt, always love, never hate. and you will be just fine.
2007-02-24 20:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by jeraboam2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down with your mom, without your prejudice step-dad. Look her straight in the eye and say "mom, i love you, and I know you love me, please listen without interrupting. there is something you need to know. I'm sure you may have even thought it or wondered over the years but the fact is I'm gay. I hope you will accept this since it is who i am. but I can't go on living this lie." Don't mention the boyfriend or anything right now give the news time to sink in and give her time to accept the truth.
2007-02-24 20:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Billy FZ1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father prob won't understand but your mom might still. Your parents only want what is best for you they are both going to find it hard to deal with at first but will probally eventually come to terms with it. You need to give them time to adjust once they are told. Just aproach it gently. patience is a vertue.
2007-02-24 21:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by hope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are going to find out sooner or later. it is better to tell them when everything is in the right position to tell them. im shure your boyfriend feels hurt that you are keeping him a secret. the whole religious aspect of your tale is sad, and i wish that your parents could not be close minded about it. but there is nothing you can do about it. you love who you love and thats all there is to it. just say "hey i love him, accept it."
i hope i helped. good luck...
2007-02-25 06:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by alexs117 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say this:
There are only two things that I need from anyone - love and respect - and anyone who cannot give me those two things has no place in my life. If they abandon you, it is then their loss and there is nothing you can do for them.
Rev. Jim Cunningham
King James Bible Ministry
GayChristianSurvivors.com
2007-02-25 11:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by kjv_gods_word 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your mom (alone) first. Based on that she can help you determine how / when to speak to your step-dad.
2007-02-24 20:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋