please help trying to conceive after a miscarriage?

Question

i had a misscariage in september which i had no idea about till i went for my first scan then the baby didnt come out so i had to have a d and c done that was in september and we have been trying ever since

we planned for the pregnancy and i fell pregnant 4 months after coming off the pill
why is it taking so long this time?

anyone have any hints or tips
im so desperate to be pregnant again and i feel miserable when i come on

Answer 1

Sorry to hear about this. It can take up to a year fopr healthy couples to fall pregnant, but the more sex you have , the more likely it is! We lost a baby at 6 weeks last january (06), after the first month, we just had LOTS of sex, and our son was born in Nov 06.
Be patient it will happen, 97% of couples having regular sex and trying for a baby will concieve within a year.
Also, enjoy the sex - you won't get any once you are a mum!
All the best - oh, we have a special day every year now to remember our little lost blueberry!

Answer 2

Hi,
1st of all you should give your body time to adjust. Really after a missed abortion(which is what you have had)pregnancy removed by D&C, you should wait at least 3 months before trying again to allow your body to regain its natural rhythm.
Also Hormones will be all over the place and they do act on your emotions.So try to calm and level and prehapes attempt to do some thing that will take your mind away from trying to concieve and this trick does work if you can hold out. Try not to has sex for a month,reason being it allows your lust levels to go crazy, hence bring down your stress levels, so when you do have sex its because of passion and not of reason.
Good luck...

Answer 3

hi im so sorry that u had a misscarriage, i had one to in july last year, the same as u , the hospital was so full that i had to wait till i was 15 weeks for my first scan, i brought clothes and everything, thinking i was well over the 3 mnth stage then of course i wasnt. I had to have a d and c too. Me and my husband have been trying for 4 mnths too so dont worrr. it took us a whole 18 mnths to concieve the first time. its just one of those things and your body may still b e rocovering. i know people thats took a cuple of yrs when nothing hads been wrong its all about the timing lol. doesnt help my husband smokes though. email be back if u like xx
ps dont be miserble, io know its hard xxxx

Answer 4

When you can't get pregnant, and things look good from the outside, it can be extremely frustrating.
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Answer 5

perhaps you are trying too hard and need to relax and let this happen naturaly, it will happen as you have been pregnant before but your body is repairing itself inside and if you chill and relax and keep your chin up and give your body time im sure you will soon get pregnant again, remember the body is a very technical piece of equipment and if you fell pregnant too soon it may not be ready to except the pregnancy and it could end up in another miscarriage - lket nature take its course so you have a healthy start to your next pregnancy,
good luck

Answer 6

So sorry to hear you about your loss, i miscarred in Jan 2007 and i know how you are feeling. It could be that its taking you body to get back to normal again and when your body is ready then you will become pregnant again. Once you do let the doctors know straight away so that they can keep a close eye on you and baby.
Hope it goes well - Good luck

Answer 7

Sweetheart,please dont be desperate because this will only worsen situations.Try to relax your mind.Dont be in a hurry get busy with other things.I know of couples who were desperately looking for a child for years without any; but one came their way when they gave up trying.I know that what we eat could either increase or decrease our chances of getting pregnant so eat sensibly and check for your blood pressure and blood sugar level.Avoid greasy foods,animal based protein and confectioneries.Consume more fruits and vegies,seafoods and get your husband to eat right too as conception takes two.Avoid stressful circumstances as this lowers immune function which in turn impacts on fertility hormones.If you are a smoker give up on smoking and your spouse is one,encourage him to list his priority as he cannot eat his cake and have it.But if none of you is, then you dont have to worry just be happy knowing you have been pregnant before and you'll be again. Goodluck!

Answer 8

i had a miscarriage at 21 wks in 2004. like you i was desperate for a baby to hold in my arms. it took me 9 months to conceive you will get pregnant when your body is ready. i now have a little boy who is 18 months old. my best advice is not to think about trying to get pregnant and enjoy the practice and before you know it you will be expecting the baby you want. good luck. x

Answer 9

are you trying at the right time of the month when you're most fertile? (roughly 14-17 days from the first day of your period i believe) you can buy a predictor test i know Tesco sell them. try not to worry about how long it is taking. each of mine took different lengths of time. with my 1st it took 2 months with my 2nd it took nearly 9 months i thought it was never going to happen, but then someone told me after making love to keep my pelvis tilted so although it wasn't very romantic i used to lay on my bed with my legs up against the wall. don't know if it was coincidence but i fell pregnant almost immediately after doing this. good luck

Answer 10

I can offer you no advice - i'm sorry.

I just want you to know that you are not alone - I just miscarried at 15 weeks on January 17th 2007. The night before my scheduled D&C and went into "labor" and "delivered" on the bathroom floor.

I just wanted you to know what you are not alone - that even though I don't know you, don't know what your name is or even where in the world you live, but that I know your pain.

There will be babies for both of us eventually...Until then, we have to be strong women...