Neep Help Please!!! Help?

Question

Okay please don't hassal me for asking this on the internet but Im desperate and need help and answers.
My wife is 6 months pregnant and she was raped. This has happened before on other accounts. I know she needs her time and doesn't want to see men right now. But she won't let me near her unless she can't handle things and wants me to hold her. She's not eating or sleeping and won't tell me who did it. What do I do to help or comfort her? How do I possibly make things any better? Any real advice will be helpful.

The bastard who did this also stabbed her, so she's in the hospital for now. She has been checked out by a doctor and it has been reported. She was already pregnant before this happened.

Answer 1

Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is give them space. Hold her when she wants you to, and don't when she doesn't. The fact that she lets you hold her even just sometimes, is a very good sign.

But while you give them space, you can still love them - and you obviously love your wife very much. If she doesn't want to talk, you can still let her know through notes and small acts of consideration, like making her teas that help sleep, keeping the house (and especially the bathroom) clean, doing/helping with more of the housework.

More importantly, DO a LOT of research on rape trauma and recovery. I believe this is VERY important so that you can understand better what she may be going through, and how she may be coping. Although each person's experience, reaction, and way of coping are different, many elements and stages in the recovery process may be similar. Do this for your wife and for your self.

There are also Rape Crisis centers. Go there FIRST and as soon as possible - do NOT go to police, counselors, unless recommended by the Center(s) or if your wife wants to. Do research on them, look up their contact info, and visit them yourself. They have more experience in supporting rape survivors. You may meet people there who were themselves rape victims/survivors, and they'll be able to give you better and more helpful advice. You are the bridge between them and your wife. It is much easier to recover and open yourself to recovery when you are supported by others with similar experiences and who have recovered themselves.

You can make all the contact information available to your wife (verbally or written) and leave it at home, but DON'T force your wife to accept that help. Let her choose - if she refuses now, she may change her mind later. Trust in your love for her, because right now, that is probably the strongest thing holding her together, and I trust that both of you will make it through.

Answer 2

I would suggest a rape support group. There are some things as a man (whos never been raped I'm assuming) that you cant understand. Did the rape cause the pregnancy or did it happen after she was already pregnant? Either way, she needs help and needs to talk to someone whos been there and can understand. there are crisis hotlines and government programs in every city. Local planned parenthood (or health department) can help with resources. I hope she is able to get some sort of help soon. And mostly, dont push her. Even though you are her husband, shes still scared and pushing her will not help anything, only make her feel worse. Good luck

Answer 3

I think the only thing you could do for your wife is be there for her when she needs you. Have you seen a doctor? Has this been reported to the police? Maybe seeing a phsycologist may help her come to terms with this I know because it helped me. Don't nag just be loving enough to let her know that you are there for her when she needs you and give her space and time.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Arrange for both of you to get counseling. Call your local behaviorial/mental health agency. Call what ever agency your health insurance permits. If you don't have health insurance call your local Health and Human Services Department. If you can't or don't want to do any of the above then go see your (or any) pastor. They are, many times, trained in counseling or can at least refer you to one who is. Do not wait. This is Saturday morning as I write this. Call first thing Monday morning. DO NOT WAIT!!! I know this from personal experience. I will say a prayer for both of you.

Answer 6

This is one of the most horrifying things a woman can go through. Be patient with her. She will need professional counseling as well will you. You sound like a good husband.

Answer 7

You have to tell her to tell you what happens. She might suffer from depression, that then can lead to suicide(only can so dont jump on this you know your wife better). Basicly she needs to talk, and if its bad maybe get help. (Physiotherapist)