...esp. if he's startin with both (few months). My straight male friend whom I started a silent/ unacknowledged/ relationship with (I'm an Indian man). He acted as if he is deeply involved. Then I found out about a girl in his office he was really in love with. He denied it for sometime then indirectly accepted. He gave her preference over me, but said it was bcoz he knows her before he met me and meets her daily for 6 hours. But he still hinted he cares for me and wants to keep me too. We talked about all this indirectly.
Is it such luv possible? His love for me seemed genuine. But he seemed very emotional about his girl. I dont know if it is because of the social value attached to male-female relationships that makes him value her more or the fact that he seldom saw me, but met her daily for hours in close proximity or is he naturally inclined more towards women. Isnt it deception on his part to keep me in dark.And her.
I left him as I cudn't share him. but i still love and miss him
2007-02-24 19:29:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Being gay is confusing enough. Imagine being bisexual! I am an openly gay man and have been since I was 19. However, I knew I was gay long before I "came out." And it was in this gray area of my life (before I admitted who I was) that I went through many phases in my life. One phase was a "straight phase." I had told myself that either I was going to be straight or I was going to die. I started dating this beautiful and wonderful girl and even became attached on an emotional level. In truth, I loved her. However, the physical attraction was not there at all.... And a few months after she and I started dating, I met this guy that had both qualities for me- emotional and physical. Therefore, I went from one dilemma to another dilemma. I wanted to be with the girl because of the emotional attachment and we had become so close and I (at that time) wanted to be straight! Yet, the guy offered both and I was SO confused. I did not know what to do..... Figuratively speaking, at the end of the day, the guy won out. And we dated for years after that...it was he that helped me finally admit who I was to myself.
I am telling you all this for a reason...maybe your friend is BI...maybe he is confused and going through a phase. But in my opinon YES...it is entirely possible to love both....albeit, they may love each for very different reasons! Hope this helps.
2007-02-24 19:51:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in our current society ambisexuality is the farthest thing from acceptible. It is absolutely true that a person can be in love with both sexes at the same time. I think that social taboos and puritanical stances limit the possibilities of spiritual/ physical love. You need to decide if this man is the one that will fulfill your relationship destiny. It sounds as if you are in doubt. Your boy also seems to be in a deep closet, you must decide to sweat it out or go find another man that does not confound you. Its all on you. Do not ever settle. good luck
2007-02-24 21:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by jwmdangerdogg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is miscel. A note to those who're answering :this question:
It is not his bisexuality that confuses or bothers me. Most men including myself) in India, where there are no sexual idenitities have bisexual feelings and many act on them too.
Rather, what bothers me is if he can love two people at the sametime? I cannot comprehend this. If I love someone, I cannot think about another person. I was being extremely loyal to my friend, and it really broke my heart that he can even think about someone else and break my trust.
For me bisexual feelings would mean that I can choose to be involved with either a boy or a girl but not both at the sametime. I also think it is possible to love a girl and just have fun with the guy. But to love both, that is difficult to understand.
Is it biologically possible to love too people at the sametime? or is he decieving one of us, me I guess? I was being very possessive and When I told him I'm leaving he should have been happy. Instead he tried to stop me?
Had he told me in the beginning that he was also courting a girl )he met us both at around the sametime...... I would never have allowed myself to fall in love with him.
While he was cheating on me, he himself was extremely possessive about me. He got very upset when I brushed past a girl on the train. He would be jealous of other men touching me as well.
Isn't it unfaithfulness and lack of integrity ----- that he knew how it pains to share someone you love, but still went ahead with two-timing. How can he expect loyalty and not give it in return.
And I think he deceived the girl more than me, for she is his first/ main love. Although as far as I know the girl is only playing with him.
2007-02-24 20:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by miscel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is bisexual. You shouldn't have to be second to anyone. If you don't want to share him with this woman then don't. Yes it's possible he loves both of you. But he needs to decide who he loves more and not be a cheater. Or he needs to be honest with both of you and if you are both ok with sharing then go for it. Otherwise, move on.
2007-02-24 19:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by just jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. It is like a guy liking 2 girls(two-timing), just that one of them is you, who is a guy. But did you have to post this question?
2007-02-24 19:34:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it is entirely possible but i think the 3 of u need 2 talk about this!
2007-02-24 19:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by hopeless_romantic_♥ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's called polygamy and yes, it's a viable way of living/loving.
2007-02-25 05:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2007-02-24 20:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
2007-02-24 19:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by Atheist Eye Candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋