...esp. if he's startin with both (few months). My straight male friend whom I started a silent/ unacknowledged/ relationship with (I'm an Indian man). He acted as if he is deeply involved. Then I found out about a girl in his office he was really in love with. He denied it for sometime then indirectly accepted. He gave her preference over me, but said it was bcoz he knows her before he met me and meets her daily for 6 hours. But he still says he cares for me and wants to keep me too. We talked about all this indirectly.
Is it such luv possible? His love for me seemed genuine. But he seemed very emotional about his girl. I dont know if it is because of the social value attached to male-female relationships that makes him value her more or the fact that he seldom saw me, but met her daily for hours in close proximity or is he naturally inclined more towards women. Isnt it deception on his part to keep me in dark.And her.
I left him as I cudn't share him. but i still love and miss him.
2007-02-24 19:24:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi Miscellan, Yes, a person can love a man and woman at the same time. This is called Bi-sexal. It sounds like he wants to be with her at this time,but he will come back to you and stay awhile, and them he probably will go back to her. He's going to bounce back and forth until one of you corners him, and makes him make a choice.This is when one of you wiil lose or he won't beable to give either one of you up. This is a very hard one. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-02-24 19:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes there are a such thing as loving two people at once. Its sad but you have to look at it this way she's a girl your a guy. So maybe deeply inside he loves you more but he can not show you that affection as much as her because of the public eye. So he's using her to show his straightness or some. but do you get what I'm trying to say
2007-02-25 03:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by alexus w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is miscel. A note to those who're answering this question:
It is not his bisexuality that confuses or bothers me. Most men including myself) in India, where there are no sexual idenitities have bisexual feelings and many act on them too.
Rather, what bothers me is if he can love two people at the sametime? I cannot comprehend this. If I love someone, I cannot think about another person. I was being extremely loyal to my friend, and it really broke my heart that he can even think about someone else and break my trust.
For me bisexual feelings would mean that I can choose to be involved with either a boy or a girl but not both at the sametime. I also think it is possible to love a girl and just have fun with the guy. But to love both, that is difficult to understand.
Is it biologically possible to love too people at the sametime? or is he decieving one of us, me I guess? I was being very possessive and When I told him I'm leaving he should have been happy. Instead he tried to stop me?
Had he told me in the beginning that he was also courting a girl )he met us both at around the sametime...... I would never have allowed myself to fall in love with him.
While he was cheating on me, he himself was extremely possessive about me. He got very upset when I brushed past a girl on the train. He would be jealous of other men touching me as well.
Isn't it unfaithfulness and lack of integrity ----- that he knew how it pains to share someone you love, but still went ahead with two-timing. How can he expect loyalty and not give it in return.
And I think he deceived the girl more than me, for she is his first/ main love. Although as far as I know the girl is only playing with him.
2007-02-25 04:25:31 · answer #3 · answered by miscel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible. The term for it is caled Bi-Sexual. He likes you, but he also likes the opposite sex. Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. Try and work it out, but also try and be understanding. Good Luck! :-)
2007-02-25 03:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by c3345 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is possible of course... you did the right thing in leaving him... but you should work on stopping the whole "indirectly" thing... since it seems like everything you do is indirectly...
2007-02-25 04:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its called a bisexual triangle
stranger things have happened
2007-02-25 03:28:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u are a ***g a y*** then it is ok
2007-02-25 04:05:09 · answer #7 · answered by \\//H\\// 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋