Is this simple introversion, or something else?

Question

I'm a university student, undergraduate, in Engineering. I find myself turning down social invitations to stay home and study/work on assignments, in conversations (even other engineering students) if the topics at hand are not scholastic in nature, I find that I'm blunt in my responses (not rude, but more responsive than casual.

Example, "So, how'd you spend your weekend; watch us get our a**es kicked?" "No, I was working on that damn thermodynamics lab." .

I know I'm an introverted person (An INTJ, to be more specific, based on the Myers-Briggs testing methods.)

http://www.personalitypage.com/INTJ.html

The question is, however, is my behaviour simply a reflection of my personality or am I lacking some sort of social drive to want to talk to people?

Answer 1

Just a word of advice. Those tests don't work well when you're tired or exhausted. Also, they're meant for fun when a professional doesn't administer them.

Anyway, I'm an INTP (from real rather than self-defined evaluation) but that doesn't really mean anything. You just have to learn how to get yourself out there and have fun. Let go, shut up, and be honest. Don't think about the truth of the matter or living a perfect life all the time; you'll get worn out and won't work at your best if you do that.

Next time you get asked to do something, go with it. Even if there's a schedule conflict, go out. You're smart and responsible so step it up a notch - adapt to what opportunities are shot out on the fly and change your plans.

Actually (since you're in college) go one step further. Instead of waiting to be asked, find out what's happening. See what's going on around town online, ask classmates and hallmates what's going on, float around campus and goto some publicly advertised social events, or just plain and simply call up a friend and ask what he's doing.

I'm an IR major (that's switching to finance and investment banking) and I know what it's like to wonder about the what ifs, but you can't have a pity party and keep dwelling to fill up that emotional void, you just can't. You gotta get out there and have fun even if it means seemingly pushing yourself out the door because once you do, you IMMEDIATELY realize what you're missing out on. Don't give me that crap about how you've done it all and get tempted back (NOBODY has a clue what it's like to do it all). If you're being tempted, that means you haven't gotten out the door yet and need to keep going; just as the tension in a rubberband reaches it's optimum when it reaches it's longest length, the desire to retreat is it's strongest when you're about to snap you're own social bounds (OK, that was a corny engineering analogy but you got it).

Go out on the town, goto a sports game, goto a party, get drunk, and get laid. No, I'm really godforsaken fricken serious. There's something wrong with you when you're up @ 4AM posting about how you're not doing anything on a saturday (I just finished writing a paper that's due at 10 later this morning after tons of procrastination on Y/A). You really need to simply just wing it and get out to have fun. That's just it.

Stop thinking and just get out and have fun. We are all born with a "social drive" (WTF?) and everyone's behavior reflects their personality. Just get out and have some fun already!

Answer 2

No, you had a goal first in your thought but others are casual. Please give some time to society and friends because relationship binds us.

Answer 3

maybe its just your daily busy life thats stopping you from being more 'friendly' or responsive to others...
don't be too hard on yourself..