My friends are doing drugs and I want to get away from them. How do I do it?

Question

I have a group of friends that smoke weed ALOT and Ill admit it I used to smoke with them...but recently Ive taken a good look at myself and Im scared I will turn out to be like them...they are always in trouble and live in nasty houses with filth everywhere and all thier friends they associate with are always in trouble and do drugs nonstop. Like I said, I used to smoke weed with them but Ive stopped. I now have to make up excuses why I dont see them anymore. I love them alot but I dont want to do pot anymore and be a better person, but Im so scared of making them mad or them hating me. Do I stop hanging out with them...what should I do?

Answer 1

Very tough question. I do like the answers so far though, keep up the good work people!

You must remember something very important. Who you are is of paramount important and your actions must reflect that. I've never met your friends, so I can't give very specific advice. You, on the other hand can tell if these people are causing you to compromise yourself and who you are. If they are doing this, its time to let go. If you can find a comon ground with them that doesn't involve pot, then do that.

I've got a little story to tell. I've got a very close friend that got this terrible idea in High School to sell drugs to kids. I told him how I felt (that it was wrong on many levels). He didn't listen till he saw the consequences of his actions. Fortunately, it was only a week later and he recovered before it was too late and we remain very good friends to this day.

I didn't try and force things on him but told him my feelings and didn't see him for a week. You need to do the same with your friends. Tell them how you feel, leave it at that, and above all, don't compromise yourself.

Answer 2

Yes, its a good idea for you to stop hanging out with them at this time. You may be tempted again if you continue to see them. After highschool most of my friends got into drugs also. I walked away, too. Fortunately, the group I'm referring to all survived and are clean now. They all have told me they thought I was missing out on fun. But now realize I was the one that had it together. None held my leaving against me. And everything is fine between us to this day. Happy ending. :)

Answer 3

You're perfect. Keep on doing what you're doing. As much as you care for them, you're right with that decision of not having to do with them as much. It's not them you dislike, it's the fact that they're smoking and their unhealthy habits. Hang out with other folks who dont get in trouble.

I would stop hanging out with them, though, i dont think saying hi to each other (without smoking together of course) every once in a blue moon would hurt. But if its impossible to stay out of trouble while just saying hi, I'd avoid them and stop hanging out with them all together.

Answer 4

when your so called friends stop seeing you hanging out with them and do the right thing for yourself than they won't bother with you. People don't like to hang with someone thats not into what they do. Stay away. You have alife and you need to progress in life. It goes fast. When you do right for yourself, you'll feel proud. Think of your goals and do them. Meet people that are into good things. If they were your true friends they wouldn't even offer or have you do what they do. Remember, misery loves company! Good Luck!!!!

Answer 5

Your making a very good decision. You shouldn't worry about what they think of you. I've had to dump all my freinds at one point in my life for similar reasons. I just told them that I was very busy with school, work, and my boyfriend and in my free time need to study and sleep. I did invite them to my place and told them it was a drug-free zone. On by B-day they did X behind my back and one of them tried to make out with my boyfriend. Thats when I realized that the would bum money from me, do drugs, live like trash for the rest of their lives. I had to tell them one day that when they grow up and straiten themselves out I would love to hear from them, but for now there was not a place in my life for them. You have to let them go if you want to make something of yourself.

Your a smart kid! You'll make new friends that will be on your level.

Answer 6

i have similar problems like that my friends all of a sudden all they want to do is smoke weed and i only triend it once but i dont like it but as much as i dont like to wach them do it ill stay around wile there doing it and it grosses me out but i keep telling myself ya no ur so much better then this thank god im not like them and it sucks having to say that about your friends that you love and ect but you learn your the only person you can depend on not the people who are smoking weed

Answer 7

hmm. if they really are good friends they'll get why you dont want to be with them if they are always smoking, like i get that you wouldnt want them to be mad at you but if you tell them that it kind of scares you and that you dont want to be around it, it might help them in the long run. i dont think you should completly stop hanging out with them but when they ask why you dont want to hang out just be like well i dont want to be arounds you guys when your high.

Answer 8

I think that you should tell your friends that what they are doing by using drugs is no good for their health at all and that you do not want part in it. I think that you should find new friends who feel the same way about drugs as you do.

Answer 9

Well sounds like they have the future of a walnut.
If you want to take a glimpse into the future of these "friends" of yours - go to where all the bums and drunks hang out in your area and behold the crap of society.

Answer 10

just remember you are who you hang out with. so if you dont want to do pot don't hang out with people who do pot. i'm not saying cut yourself off from them totally. just get a new set of friends. and only see your drugies every now and then.