Teen Working & Child Support, Do I pay?

Question

My daugher lives with me off and on but not during the school year. She lives with her mother in a nother state. My daughter is going on 16 and wants to work for here money. If she gets a job will I still have to continue to give the money to her mother? My thoughts were to put it in a savings account and if she stops working to let her dip into it instead of letting her or her "Mother" spend it away on needless stuff. Can I rightfully do this?

Not like I was trying to get out of paying child support. Tech we never had an order from a judge. We are civil toward each other. I just feel that child support should be for the child not for the parent to run off to another state each month on expensive trips and leave the child to be raised with the grand parent or sibbling. I have a wounderful daughter who is every much a woman now and sees through all the smoke and wants her dad not to pay for anything. I wanna take the money and put it in an educational IRA for her to attend college. My daughters reason for getting a job is to support her self because the mother isn't supporting her needs. So what do you do? If I had other Ideas of gettinghte money directly to her that you have to offer let me know. Until then another day and a free trip to Vagas or Alanta, Chicago she goes... Thanks...

Thanks for all who responded. Just an update on this issue since so manny were concerned, I do have rights and very suprisingly to me they fall in my favor according to my lawyer and the judge said it will look favor full as well if I get this done now. Thank for your inputs.

Answer 1

A personal letter to a Judge, explaining the way you are here, may suggest filing for a hearing. If not try Court Clerk. They always seem to know alot of 'stuff'......God Bless!!

Answer 2

No. Child support set up through court is a court order. It isn't like a cable tv bill that you can just say you won't pay this month. Unfortunately, the court cannot supervise(nor should it) the way child support funds are spent. It is not the courts fault that you made a mistake in marry someone that didn't work out as a lifelong partner. Bite the bullet like many of us have and pay until the child reaches legal age. It's no different than you taking out a loan on a car and it falls to pieces a month after the warranty runs out. If you still have three years left on your loan, you pay the three years and mark it off as a lesson learned.

Answer 3

SORRY CHARLIE JUS KIDDING (S&D) lawfully and unfortanately U still have to pay child support. BUT pls be sure to keep all your receipts of monthly payments and if mom mess up the money it's on her and if she tries to go for more money well show the receipts to the JUDGE and tell her (how u like me know) Listen what U do as a good dad will pay off..later and keep that good relationship with your daughter and let her know or show her what U do for her through her mom so mother won't have a chance to talk ill about you the proof is in the puddin,never speak bad to your daughter about her mom NEVER that makes you look like the bad guy..GOOD LUCK..

Answer 4

Of course you'll still have to pay child support to the mother. So what she makes a little extra spending money for CDs, makeup, whatever .... you're still obligated to pay for her support -- child support goes to pay for her necessary expenses such as rent, utilities, food, clothing, entertainment expenses, school necessities, dental and medical expenses (unless they're a separate support payment), etc. Further, pretty soon she's also going to need a vehicle and with that comes insurance and gas costs. Any little pocket change your daughter earns is certainly not to cover her living expenses --- those are solely your responsibility until she turns 18 and how the money is spent is of no concern of yours. I'm quite certain whatever your child support payment is it doesn't come anywhere close to what her actual expenses are. You quite clearly have an incorrect assumption of what child support is.

Answer 5

the money is for the cost of housing and raising your child, you need to find out what it states in your custody papers, if the money goes directly to your child then you should be able to do this, but if it goes to her mother the not. Just because your daughter gets a job this doesnt help pay for the food that she eats, the place where she lives, the cost of her schooling, and so on. If she gets a job the money she makes will probably just go for her extra spending money.

Answer 6

No, you cannot do that. Whether Daughter works or not you still have to pay Mom child support.

By the way, I’m pretty sure if Daughter works she will use her money to buy extra things that she wants and will not be giving it to Mom to help provide her (her being ‘daughter’) shelter/utilities/food/medical expenses/etc (which is, in part, what child support pays for).

Answer 7

first of all, you are only SOMEWHAT civil with each other, or you would not have refered to her mom as 'her "mother"'.

secondly, she is not seeing through the smoke, she is young and does not yet see what things cost:

you pay what? 400? 600? 900?

ok, lets see...
rent; 1000
electric 300
food 400-600
diapers 75-150 per month (fluctuates when baby is sick or teething)
heat 300
phone/cable 100
auto; (for doctors, dentists, take to school when they miss the bus, pick up when sick, pick up medicines, get food) 200
clothing/shoes/boots 200-400 every 2 to 3 months (seasonal and they grow)

that doesnt even include dental, doctors, glasses, daycare, hair cuts, school supplies, school lunches, school projects, class trips, class pictures, over the counter medicines, prescriptions, laundry det, dish det, cleaners, soap, shampoo, toothpaste, acne medicine, pads, bras, christmas, easter, halloween, tooth fairy, birthdays, etc. and sooo much more.

in my home, the children go through 1 gallon of milk per day; thats $3.50x30... almost $100 a month in milk alone.

and thats JUST MILK.

you pay what? WOW- LOL!!!

oh please, she hasnt got a clue.... and shes an only child, which makes it worse-- her need to feel she has to 'choose' parents sides and issues. you should not be discussing adult issues or looking to confide in that child. its wrong. it screws kids up. PERIOD.

with her working, it allows her to pay for things that her mother can not afford; going out with her friends, name brand clothing, seeing movies, going on shoping spree's, cds, posters, a vehicle, auto insurance, gas, etc.

even a cell phone; to buy one and pay for it all by herself.

lastly, NOPE, you cant. its called Child SUPPORT, not Child TRUST FUND. to put monies away in a separate account is a separate issue, and is viewed as such at court.

and thats exactly where i would have you. if you still dont get the cost of children, try calling 1-800- I CANT ADD.

another "Mother" out here :)

Answer 8

My dad still had to pay child support for me even when I moved out of my mom's house at 17. The court laughed at me when I petitioned them. Sorry to say that you will probably have to pay it until she's 18 or get custody of her. BTW, in some states you have to pay until 21 if she goes to college.

Answer 9

you can ask a lawyer but i think if she's not in school and working you won't have to keep paying child support till she is 18 but you need to find out for sure im just guessing

Answer 10

No u cant rightfully do that, her money is "HER MONEY" and not money to support herself at that age, she wont be paying rent or the electric bill or food etc.. she'll be spending it on clothes, makeup and dating.. sorry but a judge would laugh in your face if u tried to stop paying based on that lol.. YOU PAY CHILDSUPPORT TO HER MOTHER TO "SUPPORT YOUR DAUGHTER" geeze why is it so hard for men to realize that???? YOU HAVE TO PAY UNTILL SHE IS OF AGE ORRRRRRRRRRR UNLESS SHE MOVES OUT AND IS SUPPORTING HERSELF, but while she is still under her mothers roof, u pay HER MOTHER, to help provide a roof over her head, food on the table, electricity, etc etc etc..

Geeze u'll find any excuse not to actually pay ur x money wont u ? lol.. how pathetic u are..