Roommate Drama Drama DRAMA!?

Question

I live with two roommates (females). I have been living in this house for about 6 months, and since then – on and off – it has been nothing but accusations, rumors, and yes DRAMA. The two criticize and belittle things I do, even though I pitch in and help around the house. One roommate (we’ll call her ‘L’) got mad at me because I used one of the towels in the bathroom (we both share the bathroom) to dry my hands, stating it was unsanitary. Another incident, she got furious because I had about 3 or 4 strands of my hair on the floor. She was blowing it out of proportion, like I had heaps and heaps of my own hair piled on the floor. In addition, L accuses me of being lazy, and spread rumors to her friends when they visit. My other roommate ‘S’ – personally, in my opinion, suffers from obsessive compulsive disorder and is neurotic when it comes to cleaning. Of course, I clean the areas/rooms where I am active at (the den and bedroom)… then, S takes the vacuum and cleans the areas again! I don’t get it. To me, the vibe I get that my cleanliness is not up to her standard. Not only that, I have been exposed to S’s uncontrollable crying and temper (suffers from depression.. maybe is bipolar too?); also she keeps repeating and talking about the past of her abusive ex-boyfriend. Frankly, I don’t want to hear it - ANYMORE.

To make a long story short, the two get upset with me over the stupidest things. I have told them time and time again that I help and clean and I am not going to accept the unnecessary criticisms anymore. Yes, we have very different lifestyles; however, I am not going to change my actions just to please others. I have been contemplating on moving out and exiting this ‘’hostile” environment. Living with other people is not easy. I take this maybe as a ‘’learning experience’’.. on next time, CAREFULLY choosing a roommate, or better yet, living by myself.

My question is what other options can I do? Stating MY side to them is not helping.

Thanks; and sorry for the length.

Answer 1

You've already solved the problem by deciding to move. Some people just can't get on and these girls are on a different mental capacity that you are. If you want to do things YOUR way then get your own place. Look into single occupancy units. I live in one and the rent is 350 and includes everything but electric, which runs about 26 a month, cable and phone. Single living units are sometimes even more affordable than rooming with someone. Check it out.

Answer 2

I don't really know. Moving out seems to be the best solution. Or just not taking things too personally and living how you wnat to live, while still being considerate. Best of luck! My own roommate situation is coming up shortly. *sighs*

Answer 3

I am going to tell you bluntly, they don't want you there. This is their stupid way of telling you so. Not directly to your face, but by bitching behind your back, and incessantly making your life miserable. Don't take it one more minute. I am sure you are the most gorgeous, brightest and sweetest girl. Please know that this sort of situation is very very common amongst room mates. Can you afford a little studio apartment? A little haven to call your own where you can leave your coffee cup anywhere you damn well please.

Answer 4

From what you've described, you have the roommates from hell. Run, don't walk, away from them. Eventually this situation could be detrimental to your health, and nothing is worth that.

Answer 5

wow, i know that must really suck. i would advise moving out asap, before u snap on both of them, i def would. good luck! if talking it out like adults is not working, then you're not dealing with adults and you need to move on..