I asked this question in Singles & Dating the other day...wanted to see what this group thinks about it....
I have a friend who is in a "friendship with benefits" relationship with a man...They have been steady off & on for the last yr now....both claiming there has been NO other sexual partners...
Recently, she professed her love for him....saying that she has decided she wants a one on one....steady relationship...not just sex....he tells her the same thing...
Then, he turns around & tells her that even though he wants a relationship other then this arrangement....he wont make her his GF, since she told him from the beginning that all she wanted was a sex partner.....he says he loves her also....."since he loves ALL his FRIENDS".....yet..he is at her house every day....calls her 20 times a day...& even gets mad if she talks to someone else...or even mentions another man's name....it is jealousy, but he does get mad...then they fight about it....
In this whole yr they have been doing this....he hasnt kissed her...won't hold her hand, but has taken her out...spent the night at her house.
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2 days ago
& other things like that...
When she asks him why he wont kiss her....he tells her that he reserves that for his GF relationships, & he doesnt want to hurt her if things change between them...
He recently started talking to someone online...& has lied to her about meeting this girl....
My question is.....What is up?
What is he doing?
I wanna say he is getting his cake & eating it too....BUT...it seems weird that he does things for her at a drop of a hat....& all the things a BF would do, but then say things like that....
What gives?
2007-02-24 18:19:06 · 10 answers · asked by mysticfairy74 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think he is a jerk and she is deluding herself. Your friend needs to tell him that she will not be a bed buddy for him anymore. I bet if she tells him that she will not have sex with him anymore he drops her like a bad habit. I don't know you or your friend but nobody deserves to be treated like a piece of @ss. I know that is how the relationship started but relationships grow. I hope it works out.
2007-02-24 18:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhhh,A man who has the upper hand for a change,It's so refreshing to read about situations like this one.But,True to mans demise,He will ultimately give himself to her one hundred percent through default,Because he can only kid himself so much,After all,He IS only a man.Ha ha LOL
2007-02-24 18:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Eat My Shorts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, the guy doesn't want a skank who will boink a guy just to have "benefits". Who could blame him? Nobody wants a skank.
Some friend you got there.
2007-02-24 18:24:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he neads to spend some time growing up
2007-02-24 18:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by loboe27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he his afraid of commitment. She needs to drop him.
2007-02-24 18:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What can I say? Guys are jealous idiots. Well, most guys.
2007-02-24 18:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Think. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on drugs. Get you/your "friend" out of there ASAP!
2007-02-24 18:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by RoninShonen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its none of your business...but if you want the same relationship...call me
2007-02-24 18:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since its obvious your talking about yourself, what is your phone number?
2007-02-24 18:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by DJG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To much to read, just dump him!!
2007-02-24 18:25:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋