Help on preconception, please . . . ?

Question

I've been trying to get pregnant for about 4 months now, and have been off of birth control for nearly 2 years now. My fiance and I have been trying to plan for a baby for the last 3, but this month we haven't been planning that much at all. The last few pregnancy tests were negative, and I swear if I have another negative pregnancy test I'll scream and break a dish. But, been trying to not have too much stress on me. So far, for the last month, I have remained calm and fun-loving and a little chip (happy). We have lots of fun while we make love and little baby talk (within the last month and a half), but wondering what would be a good tip and/or suggestion on easier baby-making pregnancy preconception tricks or advice you could give me/us? Anything would do ... (he's even taking male-fertility medication to up his libido count - should I do the same for me?) Please help in any way you might possibly can.

Answer 1

My husband and I tried for 4 years before i was able to conceive. but don't let it discourage you. I truly believe that when the time is right it will happen and you have to leave it up to the Big Guy. hope that doesn't offend anyone. After we stopped fertility drugs and counting days and taking basal temperatures, we concentrated on our life and bought a house and a car, mind you, we bought a two bedroom house for us and our 9 year old, and 6 months later i was pregnant. So you see, nerves play a HUGE role. If you try too hard, it seems to take forever. Take time and enjoy life and let the little bundle of joy be a surprise bonus to a life that is already wonderful. =)

Answer 2

I'd say NO.....to the fertility drugs. You've only been trying for 4mos. though that may seem an eternity to you, it is NOTHING to most people. Most doctors won't even give you fertility drugs until after you've tried unsuccessfully for a year or more. All you can do is relax and keep trying! Get an ovulation predictor test (walmart) if you haven't already. It worked for me. I knew the exact day I was most fertile. Also, don't get up immediately after sex.....stay on your back and still. Good luck

Answer 3

Most people conceive immediately when they give up having sex for pregnancy reasons. Eliminate the stress and do your medical checks.

Answer 4

How to get Pregnant Faster – Top Ten Tips

1. Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.
2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.