I recently made friends with a girl who is a nice person, but certainly not one of my close friends. The problem is, she keeps confiding all of these horribly intimate details about her life with me- and it's really begining to bug me!! She tells me about when she has her period, what sexual position she and her boyfriend used last night etc. The thing is, we've only just met!! I find it a bit overwhelming and strange that somebody you've only just met would tell you such things. I'm certianly not encouraging her, or telling her any of my private buisness, but I want her to stop trying to get so close to me so quickly. She's a nice enough person, I just find it irritating that she is doing this! How do I stop her from divulging so much and getting me involved with her private issues without being rude to her?
2007-02-24 18:05:33 · 13 answers · asked by jemm4president 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why don't u just tell her that u really woud rather her not tell u about her sex life because ur not comtfortable with hearing about since u don't really know her. And u fell that sex is a wonderful thing but u rather she keep the details of her sex life in her and her boyfriends bedroom.
If she's a nice and understanding person then she will not be upset because it's true that she shoudl keep it to herself.She should be so free to allow u into her personal sex life since u two don't know each othr like that
2007-02-24 18:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How should I be nice and polite in answering this?
Honestly, like you said, she seems a way too much overwhelming. I would recommend you to keep a certain distance from her in term of being friend with her as I see it fit. It's clearly both of you are totally different people and I don't know much about either of you, but if I may be frank with you and please don't get offended by my comment, I think she's probably one of those types of women on Jerry Springer's show or Maury's show. Needless to say, you know her better than any of us here on Yahoo Answer. Whatever the decision that you will make, I hope it will benefit you in the long run in term of your relationship with your family, husband or boyfriend. Only you can decide your own destiny.
Good luck and use your wise judgement!
2007-02-25 09:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi--what is the problem??? Have you had enough?? tell her in a nice private conversation--you don't care and you don't see the need to know any of the stuff she talks about---you just met her--if she gets angry--so what. Just be nice, she probably thinks all girls do this talk stuff--let her know that you don't and would appreciate if she kept it to herself.Guys do the same thing--maybe it's just nerves around new people--just be nice about it.Smile---good luck
2007-02-24 18:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im in a simmilar situation where my best friend keeps talking about her other friends. i know it may not be as gruesome but it is still realllyyyyy annoying. i dont want to hear about how funny it was when kelsey did this and that. i have told her and she has not stopped. but any way enough about me i would advise that you just dont pay any attention. i think she is just trying to be closer to you. i would just say in a joking way something like ohhh yuck and then laugh but she might take it seriously - hopefully she does. i dont really know if i did then i would do the same in my situation hope you find an answer and my question is out there so when you do let me know please
2007-02-24 18:18:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww,.. thats so cute,.. she really must trust you,..
and some friend you are,. slamming her on yahoo in public,..lol
jk
i suppsoe its a double edged sword,... for me,. i would just blow it off,.. but if it really bothers you,. just casually mention it,..
"hey,.. I am a devout christian or some other lame *** excuse,.. so if you wouldnt mind,... i dont like to talk about sex, since only God interests me"
the reason you may have to fib a little is,.. in essence,.. your going to basically be tellign her,.. "stop getting too close to me" at least unless you fib, thats the way its going to come across.. seriously,...
so just think up a decent reason to get her to tone it down,.. because i'd be totally willing to be if you jsut ask her to stop she is mildly hurt by it, only becuise it takes a lot to trust someone with that stuff, and it sounds as though she trusts you enough to confide in you, which is kinda nice...
good luck
2007-02-24 18:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everytime she starts open a new conversation , get over it , n she will understand ur pain , n i think she will stop .
and if u wont get upset tell her what u want in a nice way , if u will get upset dnt but just when she starts u do another thing that make her stop n she will get it
and after a while u will take both ur time to tell ewach other abt these issues .
2007-02-24 18:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by who k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just have to get up the courage to tell her the next time she indulges her private life to you. just friendly say "i know we haven't known each other that long, but i would really appreciate it if you wouldn't talk about that kind of stuff with me." then she'll probably say something like "oh, ok." and then there might be an awkward silence, which would be the perfect time for you to bring up a different subject.
2007-02-24 18:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change subjects whenever she brings up the topic or give her zero to little feedback with her sex life talk.
2007-02-24 19:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people who do this have some level of mental issues. she never learned social boundries.
run the other way
2007-02-24 18:10:44 · answer #9 · answered by spiritualcipher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her it makes you uncomfortable to hear these things and ask her to stop sharing so much
2007-02-24 18:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by leos1964 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋