I am attractive-have friends-great kids but am hopelessly insecure in my marriage. First husband left me for another woman and current husband has dabbled in some porn internet stuff but it was so so long ago-however I can't get past it and trust him. He now travels and is Vegas on business as I write this and I am so overwhelmed with thoughts of what he's doing-I am making myself sick -I am I am making him sick too. I want help!
2007-02-24 17:46:11 · 1 answers · asked by laurel l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although some people who are insecure in their relationships don't have a really good reason to be, I think that you do. Being cheated on once can cause such emotional scars that it will affect how you feel about future relationships. Between that, the porn, and having your husband gone (to Vegas of all places!) for long periods of time, it's no wonder you're overwhelmed!
I'd recommend finding a counselor -- at least for yourself, but for your husband as well, if possible. Try to find some way to explain your feelings to him -- they are legitimate concerns, and it's not wrong or strange for you to feel this way. The goal, however, is to build trust and mutual respect between you and your husband so that you can get over this and not feel this way -- it's not something you can just decide to "forget about" and it will take time! It's important to be honest, be open with your husband, and talk with HIM about ways that you two can work together to get through this.
Good luck! I wish you the best!
2007-02-25 09:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by wnk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋