Not tha ti want to end the friendship with her but i just cant take the pain that i get when i think about what her and one of her other friends said about my boyfriend and my boyfriend reminds me about it every so often and its really hard to deal with that pain in side and than havin got deal with the pain and the fear of knowin ghis ex girlfriend is trying everythign to get him b/c and there is nothing i can do but think about what he told me does any one have any ideas on how to end a long friendship like that without hurting the person i knwo there is no true way to end a friendship without hurting them but its not easy ending one either
2007-02-24 17:28:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If it's something that hurts your boyfriend, then call it quit with your best friend. You should give your boyfriend priority and make him on top of your list. You can find another best friend but NOT a boyfriend. Just tell your best friend straight on her face that you aren't seeing her as your best friend any longer and contact her no more.
2007-02-24 17:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by superb2dmax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly believe that this guy is worth ending your friendship that you have had with your best friend for who knows how long, then the only way is to tell her straight up you can not be friends with her. If the two of you have been best friends for this long she deserves that much respect as opposed to simply ignoring her and hoping she'll get the hint. However I must reinforce that you need to be completely sure if ending this friendship for your boyfriend is worth it. I hope that there are other reasons than you are afraid his ex is trying to win him back. For one thing if he holds you accountable for something your friend said then that could be a problem, and second of all if this best friend of yours is talking about your boyfriend behind your back then maybe you should reevaluate the relationship you have with your friend. Either way you should be analyzing your situation much more.
2007-02-24 17:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by Miss_C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me don't end your friendship....guys will come and go but friends will hopefully always remain. My best friend ended her friendship with me during high school, it was the most painful thing (as she never really gave me a reason why). We never worked our problems out or got a chance to reconcile. She ended up dying this past November after a battle with cancer and I wish I had at least send her a card and gave her my best...maybe even talked to her and let her know that even though we weren't friends anymore, I still cared about her. I'm not saying you or your friend are going to die or anything, I'm just saying that friends are important, and sure guys are too....but don't ruin your friendship over a guy. Honestly, as cliche as this sounds you never know what someone means to you until they're gone forever.
2007-02-24 17:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two options - 1) you can tell her honest and straight up that you don't want to be friends with her, and then explain why.
2) you slowly just stop talking to her and eventually it will get to the point where you don't talk at all and she'll get the hint that you don't want to be friends.
2007-02-24 17:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop talking to your friend.
2007-02-24 17:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have an discussion on the phone, hang up, and never speak to her in you live. worked to me
2007-02-24 17:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋