should 2 ppl be togheter cause they have a baby togheter?

Question

do u think 2 ppl who are not meant for each other shoudl be togheter for the kid so it can have 2 parents or do u think thats worse in the long haul>>??

hmm how do i know that smart ***? casue im talking about myself and my babys dad. i think id know - dummy

Answer 1

i think that people should not marry just becuause there is a child
if there is problems, then this will just add to more pain for them
and the child. and in the long run the child will suffer for this as
well as the parents.you can be parents to the child . and not be
marry to each other.

Answer 2

been there and done that with all the best intentions and all the best love in our hearts. Truth is it will not work out in the long haul and eventually there will be hurt feelings and resentment along the line along with so many other emotions. If you can leave and be friends and love/care for one another as much as possible, but not stay together it would be so much better for the child. Look at it this way right now there is no resentment and you can treat one another with respect and mutal love, you know in you heart that in the long run if you stay together you will get mad easier at all the little stuff and not treat one another as well due to being where you dont really want to be. Your child will grow up with two parents not together but with respect and mutal love and complete coparenting or two parents that hate each and yell at one another, talk rudly towards each other ect.... Which do you think is better? You kid learning it is okay to let go when it is not working or to stay no matter how miserable he/she is. what would you tell your child to do if it were him/her in the situation? hope this helps.

Answer 3

In the end, you need to do whats right for the child. If your other half is to the point where they are becoming reckless because they dont want to be in this relationship then I'd let them go. Baby's need their mommy's and daddy's. However if you cant raise this child to be happy and confident and productive, then I suggest adoption. Your childs best interest is at stake here. Keep in contact, certainly, but dont take away a chance for your child to have the best life possible. If you do keep the child, let them know you love them everyday. For example, my father only told me he loved me if I got on the honor roll at school and to this day (I'm 18) I hate his guts. He never made me feel like anything worth while. If you cant give your whole heart to this baby, then dont make things worse by keeping it and giving it the idea that life would have been better if the pregnancy had never come along. Good luck.

Answer 4

don't get married just for the "sake of the kids" if you are not compatible or not in love or even if you just are not ready for marriage, then don't do it..things will be worse in the long run, for all concerned. I would say though that the parents of the child do need to have some sort of (polite) way of keeping in touch and staying in the life of the child

Answer 5

K, here goes. Absolutely NOT. I thought that almost 11 years ago and we definately started to argue which in turn started emotional problems with our child that became obvious and I didn't know how to fix it until my child actually pointed it out to me that she no longer wished to live with dad and mom fighting. Needless to say, we moved out and are much happier without the stress not just for her but I can focus more on us when I'm happy. Don't do it becuase you don't want your child to have a broken home, it may be proper but definately not emotionally correct. Good luck.

Answer 6

How do you know that they are not meant for each other? You a phycic or something? Kid should always have 2 parents. If they were that mature to get it on, they should accept the responsibility of where that action may take them.

Answer 7

No. Negative environments are not good for a developing baby.