please help me. i am very confused and stressed out. i have liked my friend for about 2 years. we get along so well. and i really feel physically and mentally (does that make sense lol?) attracted to him. i suspect he might be attracted to me as well. for example, he never talks about girls (me neither) and he has never had a girl friend. when were hanging out, ill catch him looking at me sometimes, like we gaze into each others eyes and smile. also the other day on AIM i said "can i ask you a question...and its been on my mind for quite some time." he said sure...but i said it would have to be the next day cuz i had to get off of AIM. the next day, he I Med me and i think he wanted to noe what i was going to ask but i never got up the courage to ask him. ( the question was is he gay/attracted to me...something along those lines.) please help me...what should i do? thanks for your replies. also we are both 16
2007-02-24 16:57:03 · 5 answers · asked by im confused! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
well you since you catch him gazing into your eyes it might be a sign that he likes you. But if he never talks about girls and he has never had a girlfriend mayb hes just waiting for you.
So he could be gay, you just need to get the courage to ask him. it maybe hard but sometime in the future it might help.
2007-02-24 17:04:15 · answer #1 · answered by Katie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too cute for words.
I can see from the way that you state these facts, I do believe that he likes you.
If anything, take a chance and just say that you're attracted to him romantically. If he freaks, he wasn't a good friend.
BUt evidenced by your words, that isn't going to happen.
I know that its hard to get the courage to say this, but if you never do it, you may loose him as a friend, not just as a 'lover'
And it doesn't matter what age you are, 16, 25,.. you are who you are and you can't change that.
I've read too many stories that recount relationships like this. And they always turn out for the best. Take a deep breath, get a time when you're alone and just say it. You'll feel better once you've gotten it off your back.
2007-02-25 02:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by cyancat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey - this must be so stressful for you!!!
If this friendship is really important to you, you need to be very careful about how/ what you ask - because you may lose a friend if it all goes badly.
Have you ever considered just telling him you are gay and seeing what his reaction is? If he's not gay and is a true friend, it won't make a difference to your friendship.
If he IS gay, then it opens the door for him to feel safe telling you also. .... then just see where it goes from there...
Good luck!!!!
2007-02-25 01:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by mel974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll help you ask. Give me his AIM.
I think you're just wishful thinking and pin pointing the things that might hint that he might be gay. I know I do that. You'll never know unless you ask him so you should do it before you get over him.
2007-02-25 01:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by thomas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a chance. Be sure you're alone and in a comfortable spot. I bet he's waiting for this and wants it just as much as you do.
Good luck!!!
2007-02-25 01:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋