Everything that comes out of me seems to be in the past tense. Which makes it sound like they've already gone. So.... any ideas?
2007-02-24 16:02:24 · 7 answers · asked by lotusgirl 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Write to them as if they are not terminally ill. In other words, don't treat them any differently. Be yourself. How did you communicate with the person in the past? Focus on the person and not the illness. (don't get me wrong, I don't mean for you to ignore the illness...just don't make it the focal point).
2007-02-24 16:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by crzynluv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, and write what comes from your heart. Try to share the pain with concern. Be careful in your words, but your language has no use when the words come from heart. Life and Death are in the hands of Creator, none else can decide it. Make the person feel your message is great comfort at the time of need..
2007-02-25 00:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by Brahmanyan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd think of it in terms that YOU would want to hear if you were in that position. When my sister was dying, we'd have lots of long talks about fun times we'd had, old boyfriends, teachers... just "stuff".
If I were terminally ill, I'd want to read something that would bring a smile to my face. You didn't mention if this person was family, a friend, older, younger - all things that would change the 'slant' of what you're writing.
2007-02-25 00:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Harleigh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and write a chatty friendly letter like nothing is wrong. People get well even if they are supposed to be terminally ill.
2007-02-25 00:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are talking about past events than of course those will be written in past tense.
To counter that, end the message with something about the future days that you will share together. It may not be many, but it sounds like you have plenty of tact and empathy. I am sure that this person will appreciate what you are trying to do.
2007-02-25 01:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by peacedevi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you're writing with love, i don't think you can go wrong...it would be worse to say nothing at all. My sister is terminal also and i know she just wants to hear how much she is loved and will be missed. She needs to know she is imortant in this world and her life means something
2007-02-25 00:10:07 · answer #6 · answered by Queenie Peavey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write in the future!
2007-02-25 00:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by hello1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋