So i'm a Junior in h.s., and a lot of my friends...good friends...drink. I don't because I don't have any want to, and I know nothing good can come out of it. But there are two girls, I thought they were real nice girls, weren't into that...I loved them...they said they HATED people who drink, drugs, etc. Then I find out today that they were at this party the other night...and that they were drinking. This is just such a shocker to me, and I just don't know what to do. Just somebody help me...I don't even wanna see them anymore.
2007-02-24 15:48:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
nvm the question mark on the question
2007-02-24 15:54:11 · update #1
ALSO...if I didn't add it the 2 girls are/were really close to me.
2007-02-24 15:55:02 · update #2
Eagle:: Look, i'm not mad, I just wanna get down to the bottom it...i'm not 100% sure if they were drinking, but im about 98% sure they were. It's just that everyone at that party was real good friends fro my youth group, and it just kinda pains me to think that that's what they are doing...I just, it's difficult. They're basically my family
2007-02-24 16:13:24 · update #3
omg you sound exactly like me. firstly i wanna say i think it's cool you're not into drinking, especially cuz you're a guy. but yeah i know how hard it is when you think you know someone so well and then they go do something you never thought they would. i have this friend whose 2 years older, said she didn't drink cuz people are stupid about it, and then one night goes out & gets completely drunk with these two @$$holes. she ended up telling me about it the next day and appologizing though so it was hard to be mad. it hurt like hell though and i finally told her that cuz she kept asking me if i was mad but when i thought about it i wasn't really mad i was just hurt & scared. anybody else i would have been like wow you're an idiot but i love her to death, kinda like you feel about your friends, so i couldn't be like that to her. just talk to them and see what they have to say & tell them how you really feel. i don't know but i just told her i'd rather not have her go drink but if she did it was easier if she was honest with me & i didn't have to hear about it from someone else. good luck, i hope everything works out!
2007-02-24 17:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by i_play_6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Angel, been in your teens is normal to feel confuse ,please don't be angry at your friends ,try to understand this please is apart of growing up :example when you were little if someone ask you you like girls what did you said ? answer ,I bet you said iiiiiiiiuuuuuuu who likes girls ,girls are wimpy, or stuffs like that .
ask your mom about in case you don't remember ,
today ,of course you likeeeeeeeeee girls ,am I right? yes of course I'm ...OK then ,never say never ,is it familiar ? is totally true .
you probably don't like to drink now ,but never know maybe tomorrow you will change your mind ,now I do wish you never take drugs ,those are really bad OK.
if you ever want to try to drink always think you control your self no the drink control you .
Is for your friends they growing the same is you ,don't be mad at them ,just ask then why is that they change their minds about .
maybe you can learn something from it.maybe they did it because they like a guy which it is stupid ,but you never know unless you give then the benefit of explain their self's.
2007-02-25 00:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by eagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not comfortable with these friends break yourself apart from them. Many high school have clubs where people pledge not to drink, Find a group who doesnt' drink. By the way, you don't drink.....that's good. You've got plenty of time.
2007-02-24 23:57:42 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we are growing up we all do things out of character sometimes. different reasons...curiosity, peer pressure, or just plain foolish. your friends may be good friends and are going through a phase where they are either doing it out curiosity or peer pressure. if they are really genuine friends they will come around eventually...they have simply lsot their way temporarily.
As you go through life you will realize you can't always expect friends or family to act as you would in every situation. you either have to decide whether you can accept them for who they are and deal with their imperfections or move on.
if i were you i wouldn't right them off just yet. give them some time to reflect on what they did.
2007-02-24 23:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Divine_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
possibly the girls knew how you felt about drinking & drugs etc..maybe they where afraid to tell you how they felt, if they are your friends you should be able to talk with them & let them know how you feel if you are there friends you wouldn't judge them & listen to what they have to say, then you may have an open relationship and they may be more apt to tell you how they feel
2007-02-24 23:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jonathan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋