My ex husband and I were together for almost fifteen years and then he decided he wanted to be with his late friends wife. They were seeing each other for a while before I found out. We had a nasty divorce and he is now remarried, for the fourth time, to this person. In the beginning I wanted nothing to do with him any more and his new wife completly wanted me out of the picture, I left them alone. My ex and I did try to communicate one time and she completly went crazy, told me to never call or try to contact him again. The thing is I really miss his friendship, if any thing we were good friends. There are times in my life when I would love to talk to him and see him for nothing more than friendship.I've moved on with help from counsilers and I am living a good life. He is still friends with his other two ex wives and she is ok ith that, why does she treat me like I am the one who did something wrong here she's the one that had an affair, with my husband. This happened three years ago
2007-02-24 15:41:46 · 19 answers · asked by deborah h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You said the two magic words... "affair" and "divorce".
She has problems with you, because you were the one married to the man when she started seeing him. You're the one who went through a nasty divorce with him, while she was in the picture.
If she has a problem with you, you're not ever going to recapture the friendship with your ex-husband. You have no leverage for encouraging her to see you in a different light, and she has no motivation to do so. Your best bet is to find peace and healing inside of yourself, and let your past relationship go, even the friendship aspect of it.
2007-02-24 15:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most obvious answer is that you are a threat and she knows it. There are probably issues in the relationship and most likely, he brings you up quite a bit. She's also afraid that if you are in the picture as a 'friend' he will probably realize that he made a mistake.
I don't think that you should try to be friends with him. If your ex husband was your friend, then he wouldn't have done things the way he did. He knows better, especially with two other marriages under his belt. There is a way to do everything and he wasn't being your friend when he was sneaking around with this trollop. Keep the memories for what they are, but let it all go. Enjoy the good life you've built for yourself.
2007-02-24 23:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by moe497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His current wife feels guilty because she "stole" your husband. She didn't steal him from his other two exes. Why do you want to be friends with a man who cheated on you and others before you? Are you trying to tempt him to cheat on his current wife with you to get back at her? Give this up. This man is not worth being friends or anything else with. Move on. For your own self-respect. The worst punishment you can give this woman is to be stuck with him. He's a cheater.
2007-02-24 23:56:24 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. You had a "nasty" divorce. Kind of indicates that he probably isn't very honest, so why do you want to be friends?
B. She is going crazy because he cheated on you with her, and she KNOWS he can't be trusted.
Personally, I think the folks recommending you call him anyway lack self-respect. Why would you want to be friends with somebody who doesn't respect you? Really, you can do better if you get out there.
2007-02-24 23:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things happen for a reason and the best. You will be better off just letting go and you will meet someone and fall in love again when the time is right.
2007-02-24 23:56:45 · answer #5 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have children that you are raising with this man you should just let him drift off into the sunset and move on with your life. Surround yourself with good friends and people that can help you be happy. He & his wife will only bring drama and pain. What else do you need to know?
2007-02-25 00:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone, he's married now. I wouldn't want my husband talking to an ex girlfriend. Get on with your life, that chapter is closed. All you are doing now is causing relationship problems between the two of them, and you're probably loving it, but leave them alone.
2007-02-24 23:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is like that becuase she knows deep down that she got your man while he was with you and she scared of the same thing happening to her and if i were her i would be worried that he would do the same thing to me if i where her... She is the fool try to contact him and tell him that you need to toalk with no matter what... Try to keep your life simple though as now you have a great life
2007-02-24 23:46:15 · answer #8 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because u are the most recent one of his ex's, and u may be the prettiest one of them, she knows what she did to u, and knows there may be a chance he may want u back, so he has to avoid u because she feels threatened, she did not steal him from from the other women, but she did from u, so she doesn't want any reminder of the women she cheated out of a life around her. she did u the wrong, so it is only natural she would want to avoid u.she knows she hurt u, stole your life u should have been living, maybe the guilt is killing her.
2007-02-25 00:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She knows what she did wrong will come back on her ten times.
She don't want you around because he has a history with going back to his past girls.
She don't want to lose him to you.
girl you don't need his friendship anyway it will just make old feelings come back and he would probably do the same thing to you again.
2007-02-24 23:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋