I dont really know what to think.... I have gone out with a couple of guys during high school because they asked me... but then I broke things off because all they ever wanted was sex... and I wasnt interested in them really at all to begin with. I just went out with them because I thought it was what I was supposed to do.
Anyway, I never felt any kind of attraction toward the male gender, but I have no attraction to the female gender either. So where does that leave me? I would love to have a family someday or somehow but I dont exactly know how that would work being I am not attracted to any one. I am 20 now... no dates... what is wrong with me?
2007-02-24 15:30:29 · 15 answers · asked by tears fall softly 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
My impression is that dating just isn't a top priority for you right now, and that's perfectly fine. Perhaps you're in a discovery phase, trying to figure out who you are/will be as an adult (career, personality, etc.) Don't feel pressured to do anything because you think you're supposed to! It will happen when it's the right time.
Oh, and as a female you can always adopt as a single mother (Usually males aren't able to. Makes no sense.), or use donor sperm to concieve. You can have a child on your own if you never find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. It will no doubt be tougher than having a partner, but it's been done before! You have lots of options!
2007-02-24 15:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lioslaith 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think anything is wrong with you. My advice to you is to spend time with friends and be sociable doing the kinds of things you like doing. Get out and go to get -togethers and meet people. Perhaps some day you will find yourself attracted to someone - it may be a man, it might be a woman. You might even be asexual. You never know. Go to college and get into some activities and see where it takes you. Not everyone in this world is hung up on dating and sex and setting down with kids and all. You are just fine no matter what!
2007-02-25 00:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i knew that am into females when i was 4yrs old but i thought i was the only one in the whole word who is intersted in the same gender so i always hided it,when i got 13yrs old,i went out with some guys,i never felt anything towards them but i just felt like that what i was supposed to do and because i never tried it with a girl before i thought i was lost,i didnot know what i want even though i always felt somethin towards girls
am not sayin this just to make u think that u r into girls (u might be)but no one can know that except u but i know this for sure that some people cant have attraction unless there is love
p.s. am 20yrs old too
2007-02-24 23:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by tara tara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are meeting the wrong kind of guys and you are smart to be turned off by them. You need to find decent guys instead. Ask a trusted friend to fix you up with someone he or she knows that is a good person. Meet someone at church. Let it be known that you are looking for someone special. He's out there and you are still very young.
2007-02-24 23:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. A true lady looks for honest friendship to later develop into love. Most people confuse love with sex. The less a human being is addicted to sex, the more spiritually elevated he is. Being like you are is a quality not a problem.
2007-02-24 23:40:44 · answer #5 · answered by edcaimo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That has what the western culture given... ONLY sex and NO respect for family values...
Men have been created by GOD for women and vice-versa.
The so-called 'freedom' leads to such absurd behaviour that is NOT found in any species except the 'liberated' gays and lesbians.
You are absolutely fine. The western culture has reduced females just to be used for sex and to be dumped later on. DONT go out for dates, because as you know it, it just NOT serious.
In Islam we are supposed to marry and be faithful WITHOUT any pre-marital or post-marital relationships.
Prophet Muhammed (Peace Be Upon Him) has said.. "O youth, if any of you can sustain a wife, then let him marry at the earliest, because marriage helps lower your gaze and guards your chastity"
Therefore my suggestion 'Get married'
Peace Be With You
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2007-02-24 23:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by flameslivewire 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Do you want dates? Are you unhappy being single?
There's nothing wrong with you. If you don't mind not being sure what you want in terms of relationships, or the right person hasn't come along, then all you can do is wait until it is right! How many others will say the same thing here...
2007-02-24 23:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by nicolosi81 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're normal. You seem to have the emotions of an asexual person. There are others like you. If you are serious, you can go to your doctor and he/she may prescribe estrogen pills, which may or may not help, but what do you have to lose?
Best of luck, and never forget you're not alone!
2007-02-24 23:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be asexual, that is having no desire for a sexual relationship. If you want kids some day and don't want a spouse, when you're ready you could have a child through artificial insemination.
2007-02-25 13:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's wrong with you. The right person just hasn't come along yet. When they do, you'll feel the attraction.
2007-02-24 23:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋