Would it be wrong?

Question

To get another woman to seduce my husband so I could see how it feels if he found someone else attractive enough to sleep with? I wouldn't even be angry if he did sleep with her, I just wonder about my feelings for him and I think I'd figure out how I felt if someone else showed interest in him and especially if he showed interest in her. Part of my problem is I know he loves me, would do anything for me, I can do no wrong in his eyes, but that is so boring. Oh, and I'm not attracted to him. He's a great guy, he's a wonderful father, he's the one my parents are so happy I married....I feel so restless, and have this stupid need to stir things up. I'm the worst wife, I know, I feel bad for him, he doesn't deserve this....

Perhaps I should mention he doesn't want to do any of the things I want to sexually. I have talked to him....endlesssly. I do love him, though

Yes, I've told him what I want. Yes, I'm a great mother, no I would never hurt him or my child intentionally. Yep, you're right, I'm an immature, stupid person with no self esteem. Thanks for that confirmation.

I do everything and anything he wants in bed! There are no complaints on his side!

Answer 1

10 years ago I thought just like you,I knew my husband loved me and I knew when he was coming home from work I knew what time is was going to go to bed and what time he was going to get up .Everyday was like the next and the next.I started to think what it would be like if he had a girl friend anything just to brake the route teen up but then I thought he wouldn't have the nerve to do that to me because he loves me to much.In other words I was bored out of my mind and if things didn't change I would go crazy.Well things change alright he started coming home later and later week after week.Then he started going out ever night until I ask him what was going on with him and he said he has been thinking about moving out for some time now. You could of blown me away not only was I in shocked I didn't no this man at all.To make a long story short he did move out and two and a half years later he moved back in.Oh did I forget to mention he was sleeping with a woman 10 years older then himself. I didn't find out until he moved back home the other woman planted some of her things in my husbands stuff what a way to find out.I'm telling you all this because believe me you don't want to learn the hard way like I did . I should of been taking better care of my husband and I wouldn't be feeling so heart broken still today .I place some blame on me for taking my husband for granted.You think you no your husband but you really don't especially when they walk out that front door.

Answer 2

I don't recommend this. It would turn into something really, really horrible. Maybe it'll excite you a little, but do you know how many people this would hurt? Your parents, because they would wonder why you would do such a thing. The woman who seduced your husband, because she was merely a pawn in your scheme. Your husband, because you find the relationship boring, and you pulled him into this. Your children, because they'll wonder what they've done wrong for this to happen. And especially yourself, where the reasons are redundant. I think you need to talk to him about this, instead of trying to think of a plan to help yourself. This might just be a phase you're going through; just like how someone would get bored of life. If you don't want to talk to your husband, maybe a best friend, or a counselor of some kind. Just please don't do this, it will ruin your life. I can understand you about wanting to stir things up, but there are better ways of doing it.
I hope that helped, and good luck.

Answer 3

You're right he doesn't deserve that. Don't try bringing a third person into things because it will most likely blow up in your face. Manipulating him into having an affair will hurt both of you and in turn your children. If you want to shake things up try doing it with him. You may discover something new about him that will make him more attractive to you. Try communicating with him (maybe leave out the part about not being attracted to him), but let him know that you're restless, give him a chance to change that. If after you give it a good try, you still don't feel that way about him I think you should divorce him for both your sakes. At least if you try as hard as you can you can both separate with a clear conscience.


on your additional comments: were you blunt and honest about why you wanted to try new things sexually?

Answer 4

If you have children, you need to grow up and take some responsiblity for your marriage for their sake. You need to ask your husband to go to marriage counseling with you and work things out. He should try to please you in bed. You should not try to fix him up with other women. He is a great guy and wonderful father, but you married him knowing you weren't attracted to him? So you'd rather be divorced and sharing custody of your kids, and marry some handsome stud who isn't a great guy and father? Seems to me you are immature and selfish. Your children deserve a better mother than this. Get some counseling.

Answer 5

Yeah it sounds like you are a little confused about something. There are hundreds of thousands of ways to spice things up without bringing DRAMA into the situatoin. Role play, Tantric sex, karma sutra, set up a date and act like you don't know him and let him come on to you, do something but don't bring another woman in the picture. Above all else just talk to him and tell him you want to spice things up.

Answer 6

Don't do that to him. That is just plain mean. Especially since he worships the ground you walk on. Tell him your bored and need excitment in the marriage and perhaps you two together can come up with ideas to spruce the marriage up.
Good Luck.

Answer 7

Yes, it would be wrong!! Are you blonde or something? You just need to divorce him (and hand over the children to him also. They don't need someone like you for a Mom!) and get a life. I can't begin to tell you how many people would kill to be in your position and you're being nuts! Not only are you wrong, you're warped!

Answer 8

Grow up. Do him a favor and get a divorce, so he can be with someone that actually appreciates him. It's horrible that you brought kids into this mess and now they gotta pay for it.

Maybe you should do some of the things he wants to do in bed! Maybe he'll return the favor! I don't blame him for not wanting to do anything with you!

Answer 9

It would be so wrong you should feel ashamed for even thinking it.
Do him a favor and tell him the truth rather then try and set him up. As sad as this will be for him, it sure beats the heck out of his wife trying to set him up.

Answer 10

what would u do if he fell in love with this other woman and she with him, and he left u and abandoned u. if u are lucky enough to have a man who loves u, why would u even consider such a thing? u run the risk of a real bad thing happening here, and your playing with fire, hope u don't get burned.