why wont my father let me live?

Question

really hate it, there was this family friend at our place, all i did was go to the laundry and watch the clothes if they had dried, and he came behind me and took a paper from there, and as he was a guest i asked him 4 water etc n all n dad is like ur deliberately trying to be alone with the guy, and i call him brother, my dad is soo sick iv been crying non stop 4 the past 3 hours, i have nobody to turn to,i feel such a disadvantage of looking good and then my brother tells dad that i chat with my friends on the net n he took my laptop away. i feel soo sick. i really want to die...... and i have had no such intentions whaysoever, he doesnt even look good, and i dont even like him and i think of him as my brother. ill go crazy, he's like ill get u married soon and all that ****. i hate this.is there anyway i can live my life?, please do not advise me to talk it over, it wont work.
i feel sick of being my dad's daughter, he wont trust me 4 anything. we cant split i still study.n im 18

Answer 1

hmmm. wow. this is a really tough situation. i am about the same age as you, and i know what this is like. these issues are so hard when parents dont trust you. first of all, i know you dont want to talk to your dad, but as long as you are in his household, he is in charge of the rules, right? thats how it is here. I know it will sound weird, but it will make things better in the long run... apologize to your dad sincerely in a handwritten letter. it might not work, but please try!!!!! it helped me.

i know you are very angry right now, but take the time to calm down and look at it from his perspective. he may be just trying to look out for you. i know exactly what you mean, a lot of my guy friends are like my brothers and sometimes my parents will think i like them. agh!! if oyu have tried to explain to your dad that you see this boy only as a friend and if he doesn't listen then that is his problem. you will have tried to explain it to him. let me know how things go! i will be praying for you, if that is all right!

:)

Answer 2

Hate the fact I haven't heard anything about mom but that really helps bring it all into perspective. Best thing I can tell you is that this goes on alot. We live in a pretty mest up society that even if things went perfect we still all have to deal with deep seeded abandoment issues. The only choose you have since you can't talk to this man is to help improve yourself enough to have good friends around you to help cope with this situation. Keep in mind you father acting like this is typical of a fella who has female issues and his own abandoment issues to deal with. You don't need that miss right now you need support and for other individuals to give you a more health aspect of yourself. This is only a small bit of some pretty big problems but your best bet is to try and develop some health outside interpersonal relationships that well better help you deal with this. Be careful because that is a whole new world and some people make the mistake of reaching for whatever they can get. But with some outside influences helping you better appricated yourself the inside influences wouldn't feel so big or as hard to deal with. So in a certian sense if you want to live your life you need to get out and have one, or spend more time developing the one you got.