I have a serious issue with being insecure and its ruining my social being.?

Question

I have a serious issue with being insecure and its ruining my social being.?
when im out and about i notice people stare, but my male friend always tries to assure me that its because i have something nice on or my hair he also says if i wasnt looking he would tell me. no matter how many times he tells that people are complementing instead of being facistious, i have a serious bout with my insecurity i need some help.

Answer 1

Words to live by: You would stop worrying so much about what people think of you if you knew how seldom they did. I have this by my desk and it really helps.

Answer 2

People mostly stare if your are cute beautiful etc etc.
They say babies generally stare at pretty people also
If you don't like yourself you may feel insecure
You should work on yourself & start patting yourself on the back when you do good things like
being kind
doing homework
or house work
even saying hello to people
anything that is good
being honest etc
caring for kids if you have them
working etc
& when you do do things that are not what you think are the best
don't run yourself down saying you are an idiot etc etc
correct yourself each time &
say well I may have done this or that wrong or a wrong decision
but most of the time you do better
Its all the self bad negative talk that makes you feel bad
so start praising yourself up when its needed & say gee Im proud I did that etc

Answer 3

You know, I went back to visit my hometown several years ago, and I started noticing everyone seemed to be staring at me. It freaked me out, until a friend reminded me that they were staring because they thought they might KNOW me. Ohhhh......

Perhaps they ARE looking. Since you can't KNOW why they're looking at you, it's interesting that you assume it's for a BAD reason. It's not the staring ---- it's your feelings about yourself.
Chances are you're cute/adorable/whatever, but don't know that about yourself. Don't SEE that about yourself.

Do an experiment. Stand in front of a mirror, and discuss the first thing(s) that come to mind. I'll bet you that you'll immediately start commenting on something negative you perceive about yourself. Right? So practice standing in front of the same mirror and ONLY say nice things about yourself.

We get what we expect. EXPECT that people like you, would like to know you, and that you're WORTH knowing. The vibes you will send out will be reflected back to you in the eyes of other people. ASSUME they think your eyes sparkle when you smile, that your hair is gorgeous, or whatever.

Be as kind to yourself as you would to someone else.

Answer 4

Im not really an expert but it sounds like you may have an acute anxiety disorder, it sounds like some of the symptons my sister had, or you just made need some counselind. I suggest you talk to a family member about this and see a doctor asap, if you dont think its a disorder the problem may run emotionally deeper and counseling may be your best solution

Good Luck

Answer 5

If this is getting to be a problem that gets in the way of your enjoying a good social life, it's time to find a good therapist and find out what is causing you this anxiety.

Answer 6

Look at it this way. How much time do YOU spend looking at or commenting on others? That's about how much time they spend looking at you! You'd be amazed how little people even notice other people, their hair or their clothes so relax about it.

Answer 7

it's a case of window shopping - they can look but they can't have.

it's just looks - there is no confrontation so I'm not sure what your worried about. Even if they have something to say - its just talk.

Sticks and Stones my friend.