how to stop the jealousing?

Question

how can i stop being jealous of my husband?it is getting very difficult to deal with.i get really mad or jealous when i hear or see him talking to another woman,i don't want to be this way,how can i stop?

Answer 1

I promise I had the same problem I even got jealous if he looked at a girl on TV and when I prayed about it ad gave the jealousy to God.. it went away and every time I start to go back to my old ways I pray right then and there! Try it! I promise it works!

Answer 2

I think that their are plenty of women out there that can relate to this question. Don't feel alone. I use to be like that when I was younger, lol and that's when I should have had more confidence in myself. But with age somes wisdom so I can tell you that by being too jealous you are pushing him away and making yourself miserable and crazy. There is nothing going on if they are talking to someone else. But I have experienced something recently that did get me upset. My husband would get all happy and talkative when there were other women around and the reason that upset me is he is the opposite at home. But I got a grip on things and told myself that if he screws up he is gone and then I will be free of all the headaches that comes with being married. So that is the way I deal with it. I just sit back and don't worry about anything I have told myself if he screws up I will be better off . That helps me.

Answer 3

first thing is to look at yourself, because jealousy is linked with self esteem, confidence in yourself. Do you automatically think any girl he is talking to is better than you? If so...it's your self esteem, girl!! You need to take a look at yourself, is there anything you need to start doing, like having fun? doing girl things? I truly believe that buying perfume that makes men melt, wearing heels occasionally or all the time, dressing nicer/sexier, getting a new stylish hairstyle, eating healthier, working out, wearing sexy/stylish jewelry, hanging with the girls "girls day out", all of these and more really help your self-esteem. Yeah, it's considered by some superficial but it's fun! And it built up my confidence when I started to lose it a while back. Men don't mind when women look at them, Hell no! So if men look at you because you look nice and womanly and maybe even...sexy...you may or may not like it but it's a "confidence builder". I'm not saying you should dress like a ***** or prostee, but you should look nice, smell good, and smile cuz it usually makes everyone else smile (it's in the head) just try all the "girl" things out for a while (day spa, etc.) and see if it makes a difference...if your already doing all these things maybe you can talk to someone about the issue of being insecure. Many woman feel it but some women are just too busy returning smiles and "no sorry I'm married." comments. BUT if he's flirting in front of you (like touching or teasing) then there's aproblem you need to talk to him about, tell him how it makes u feel. I could be so wrong with my comment here but it worked for me, it's food for thought.

Answer 4

I can relate to this,Women only want their man to only have eyes for them.I was the same way after I gave birth to my son,I gained alot of weight and it was near summertime too late to try and loose 40 pounds and I felt very unattractive and fat and if another pretty woman even looked our way I freaked.But I had a talk with my mother and she told me: look he chose you to be his life long partner and the mother of his children,he loves you.Then she asked me has he given you any reason not to trust him? Has he been with another woman while loving you? Does he flirt with other women? Have you caught him or have proof that he's done any thing wrong? And the answer to all of the questions were No.And she said to me: look he's a man and they are visual creatures he's not dead ,Don't you look at other attractive men when you see one? The answer Yes. As long as he doesn't give you a reason not to trust him then don't worry about it. So I worked on myself, I lost weight,bought new clothes to fit my figure,got a new hairdo,and went to a spa and pampered myself,and I do that every Sunday. Men love confident women, if you feel good about yourself your husband will find you even more sexier. Most importantly you will feel better about yourself.

Answer 5

Lets make ur prob simple:
1. have confidence in urself. try to look and be the best FOR urself and ppl around u, including ur husband will appreciate u. dont do it for someone bec u dont even know their standards at all.

2. TRUST him. Be cool and trust him. if u cant do that, then i advise u to pack up and leave now b4 u experience the crumbling down of a marriage. the more u distrust, the more likely ur husband will cheat on u. mark my word in stone.

Answer 6

Jealousy is not a good thing. It can make u do and say stupid
things. You cannot control what he does or who he talks to....
TRUST is something u really need to work on. Along with your
self-esteem. Self-esteem = feeling good about yourself. It does
not matter what u look like...it's who u are inside, that matters.
Is he trying..to make u jealous ? If he is..that is a head game.
But, if he hasn't given u any reason to not trust him, then be
more mature.

Answer 7

You MUST trust him and realize he will do or not do what ever he will if you see him or not and if you try to stop him or not. YOU WILL LOSE HIM if you continue. I know from experience. Please trust him and trust him without trying to control him or you will be sorry. It is a matter of respect. He must have his dignity. If you don't trust him, that is a different story. How can a marriage continue without trust. Think long, hard, and deep and either trust him and build a strong marriage or don't trust him and end the marriage. It is inhumane otherwise. Good luck...

Answer 8

splendor isn't someones face. Your desiring to faux function fashions. some human beings sell their looks, and good looking female and boy bands sing clever lyrics to toddlers, those are doods on the make advertising devil. human beings try this idriven by skill of the evil paradigm this is capitalism.

Answer 9

You are a woman so this is natural for you to be jealous all the time.

Answer 10

go have an affair, then you will have the upper hand. He may be talking to other woman, you can just think back to your hot african lover and smile.