I am pregnant and my mom trusted my boyfriend Kyle and I not to have sex, but we did and now I'm pregnant how do I tell my mom, how do I tell my boyfriend? My boyfriend and I talked about this and he said he would support me 100% but I don't want to freak him out. HELP!!!
2007-02-24 14:28:20 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Don't be scared. First of all, start by telling your boyfriend. If he is behind you 100% then tell your mother. But you both need to be there. you need to help each other out. It will be scary, and your mother may get angry. But she will get over it eventually and she will be happy knowing that she waill be a grandmother.
Don't worry and everything will be OK.
2007-02-24 14:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, that sucks. Not that it's much comfort, but you should not have betrayed your mother's trust by even having sex, but too late for that now.
You should just tell it straight to your mom, going behind her back even more would just make it worse, considering she'll find out eventually. You don't have to tell her in person if that is too hard for you, send note to her explaining that you regret going behind her back and having sex and that you are pregnant. Tell her your choice on abortion, keeping the baby or putting it up for adoption if you have come to a decision.
When you tell your boyfriend, tell him very carefully at just the right time, some where you can both be alone. His reaction will depend on how old you two are. I wouldn't trust him 100% on the full support thing he told you, I'm sure he's a great guy and all, but teen parenting is really stressful and he might really freak out and disappear. Don't let him force you to keep it or abort it, you have to make your own choice.
If you have not already, go see your doctor to confirm the pregnancy, you cannot know 100% just from a missed period or a home test. No matter what the results, you have to tell your parents and your boyfriend and soak in the consequences of your actions.
Good Luck!
2007-02-24 22:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Katarina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him first... If he's really true to you, he'll help you through it. And as for your Mom, just tell her. I mean she will love that child more than anything. When my brother was 17, he got his 16 year old girlfriend pregnant. He told me first, and I was worried what my mom would say - her being very religious and all. But she realized, these things do happen and although the timing may be a bit off things have a tendency of working out! I now have an 8 year old niece-Lillie. I'm not sure I'd rush into any marriage though. They tried it and it just didn't work out. Sadly though 2 years ago Lillie's mother was in a fatal car accident. My parents actually have custody of her now. I'm grateful that she came along- she've had a tough life but she's strong! Anyway your mom will love your child. Just give her a chance!
2007-02-24 23:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to tell her is privately. Just sit her down alone and tell her. Don't have Kyle around; she is going to be seriously pissed at him--he probably shouldn't come around at all for a while. I don't know how old you are, but it sounds like it is unlikely that the two of you will be able to support a child. If you decided you want to have this child, you should consider adoption; most agencies require that the birth parents still be present in the child's life, especially if the parents are young. If you can tell your mom that you have researched options and talk about it calmly, it will probably go better.
2007-02-24 22:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jensenfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u??? i mean, i know what that feels like, i got pregant at 17, and am 18 now, and my son is due in 2 weeks, i just told my mom, she was alot more understanding then i thought she would be, i was like "mom, you said i could tell you anything, and you wouldnt freak out, well im pregnant, can we talk about this?"
granted it made it easier, seeing as she lives in montana and i live in south carolina so i had to do it over the phone, but seriously, moms are alot more understanding then you think, no matter the situation.
about the boyfriend thing, if he says he'll be 100% try to belive it, when i told my boyfriend, his answer was "we'll deal with it as it develops" well obviously it did, and were married and cant wait for our child to be born!~
2007-02-24 22:34:46 · answer #5 · answered by ruspecialenuf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would tell my boyfriend first then take him with you to tell your mom after all he has a part in all this...and 99% of the time parents wont freak as bad if there is someone else there TRUST me I know
2007-02-24 22:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont be too freaked out. The Lord chooses the best times for the birth of a child and sometimes throws in a few obstacles but it will be alright, if your mom loves you, she will be supportive!
2007-02-24 22:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? thats great your b-friend supports you, than he should be prepared to hear the truth and should be presant when the both of you tell your parents, i know its not an easy thing to do, i was 19 when i got pregant and i was scared but my parents surprised me and were very supportive, my sons 5 now and im married to his father, for 4 years....youll feel better once you get it off your chest no matter what the outcome
2007-02-24 22:34:49 · answer #8 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him first, then go together to tell your mother.
There is no doubt that you've disappointed her greatly. She trusted you, and you let her down. You'll have to earn that trust again, but you can't change that now.
Good luck.
2007-02-24 22:37:24 · answer #9 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With truth, directness and honesty.
2007-02-24 22:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by chode b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋