if a man leaves his wife because she is a nasty,controlling ***** why after being divorced for 6 yrs does he still allow her to call all the shots if thats the reason he left her in the 1st place?its not that he regrets his decision he could have her back in 2 secs but they do have a child together(joint custody)
2007-02-24 14:20:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Probably guilt out of leaving the child behind. He feels he has to be nice to her because he realizes she is the childs other half? It doesn't mean he has to let her control him, but he lets himself be weak because of the child. That is a very sad situation but I see it happen a lot. Like my mothers boyfriend lets his ex take advantage of him when she calls for him to do stuff for the kids all the time. It is hard for him to say no. It is a guilt trip she is playing I think.
2007-02-24 14:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she calling shots where the child is concerned?
He might just be doing it to keep the peace, she obviously cant let go of him in a sense outside them being parents,so she makes his life a misery and your's if you are the new woman in his life...
If this is causing probs in your relationship then tell him,say you dont want her calling the shots in your relationship, no offence to his child but that is all they are now parents to the child not a couple,that ended 6yrs ago,she cant accept this so uses the child to have control or a say in his life still.......
I know someone going through the same thing and his kids are adults, so she uses the house now, and she is a nasty manipulating,callculating, controlling,emotional blackmailing biatch, but the longer he allows it the longer it will go on.... Same for you so he needs to toughen up,she dont want him but no-one else is to have him scenario, only consolation is her only contact is to do with the child, ignore any calls from her screen them dont let him have contact unless its a need to,she will soon get the message,speak to him about how its affecting your relationship be honest with him, he will respect that and may see it in a different light once you point out what she is doing....
Good luck
2007-02-24 15:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say. Could be that he is non-confrontational and not just with her. It's easy to just say "whatever you say" than to have to deal with the outcome of something huge and emotionally taxing. Maybe this will get better once the child gets older. Then the communication will diminish on it's own. There will be no more need to "deal" where the child is concerned.
2007-02-24 14:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by rggiggles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the reason.. in case you pay newborn help, she calls the pictures lol hate to assert it, yet once you're making one incorrect flow the worst she ought to do is advance what you're paying now. My mom did a similar subject to my dad for no reason. in basic terms because of the fact she had the skill to.
2016-10-16 10:30:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a financial thing. He feels if he allows her to have her way or do whatever she says she won't take him back to court for more child support.
Good luck!
2007-02-24 14:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves his kids, so thats why. A fathers love for his children will allways outweigh being treated humainly by a sick ex.
2007-02-24 14:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by ckgene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she's calling all the shots doesnt sound like you could have her back sounds desperate and i dont think it has anything to do with kids
2007-02-24 15:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by lilloric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's stupid for alowing it
2007-02-28 13:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋