Hi. I'm a 23 year old female who is confused about my sexuality. The confusion started when I was a teenager.I looked up porn online and seen nude women and found myself completely attracted to them and not to men's bodies. I never sat down and thought about it because my family are conservative Catholics. My dad and brother say it's a perverted disgusting lifestyle.
I've never been attracted to men's bodies (whole thing) but women's bodies I have been only attracted to. However, if a guy has feminine features then I'm a little attracted to him. However, does it make me a lesbian if I've never tried it with another woman and I won't know if I like it. I've tried it with a man and I'm totally not into it.
Another thing is I don't like wearing dresses, I like physical activities like men do, my favorite store is Fry's Electronics because of the gadgets, and I hate dressing up. I do NOT like dresses, floral prints, and pink, and most definitely not makeup. Am I a guyish lesbian?
2007-02-24 14:01:46 · 9 answers · asked by elysianlife1983 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you never done anything with a women, and you have tried stuff with a guy and didnt like it, that doesnt really make you a lesbian but if you feel u are attracted to women and not men you maybe one. the only way to truly answer your question is to try getting a girlfriend, or kiss another women. You know you dont like being with guys cause you have tried it already, so you should try being with a women and see if you like that. If you do then you are a lesbian. Also if it turns out you are a lesbian don't worry what other people may think. You need to do what makes you happy and what feels right to you. I hope this helps you out.
2007-02-24 16:38:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you had some gender nonconformity issues. Some children learn these characteristics, while others may have hormonal imballances that cause a gender nonconformity. Often a child with hormonal imballance wants to be the opposite gender, but there could be a scale with this. Some children may have hormonal imballance and still not want to be opposite gender, but have some gender nonconformity. Science would like to say that gender nonconformity is a pre-requisite for constructing homosexuality, but I know some children that grew out of their gender nonconformity and did not construct homosexuality.
Personally i believe both or either hetrosexuality and homosexuality is something a child can construct. Scince you looked at the porn of women before you looked at males and you thought you may have been gay because of you gender nonconformity, you began constructing homosexuality back then. perhaps even before that and you can not remember.
I am working on becoming an ex gay, I am not sexually homosexual active today and I believe it was the help of Jesus christ that has move towards becoming an ex-gay. So i will not tell you it is not a sinful nature. many gay people believe it is not, you should check out Beliefnet Homosexual Boards, like Homosexuality and Christainanity or such, they have a gay fourm, a sexual orintation fourm as well. Most there will tell you it is not sinful, but I say the Holy Bible does say do not be decieved.
I was 45 before i started to become an ex-gay, so pray about it for you.
2007-02-25 08:44:44 · answer #2 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
lol, your cute. But no. it just means that your a tomboy, BIG DEAL. And the whole being attracted to women is no big deal. I recomend being in a relationship with a girl, see how it goes. Your family, honestly, what do you care what they say. You cant change yourself just because of what they say. They'll love you, by whoever you are, so dont be scared to go out there and try new things out.
2007-02-24 23:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by dark_silence_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you might have bisexual tendencies. I am bi. I find both sexes attractive. I had the same issue. I looked at images at a younger age and have always been in awe of the female body. Women are just gorgeous! So are guys though. I especially love the debonaire ones (spelling is bad, sorry). If guys look feminine to me, then that is a plus in my book. But, then I also enjoy admiring a sensual soft stud (tomboy).
I may have confused you with my input. Sorry if I did.
And, in my opinion-a woman is not a lesbian or "bi" until she engages in lesbian relationships.
2007-02-24 23:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ignore the family, they are ignorant -brainwashed by a stupid religion
remember Ted Haggard? ( concservative Christian that paid for gay sex and used drugs)
Listen, go find a support group, meet gay friends,talk to people online- it's not easy and it's not a choice. But find out now before you start a relationship with anyone
LOVE IS LOVE
2007-02-24 23:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by medsans1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea your definitely a lesbian (welcome to the club) but who cares what your family thinks you should do what makes you happy because in the end it will be you that's bitter because you can't be yourself. (I hate wearing dresses as well that doesn't make you a "guyish" lesbian, dresses are just uncomfortable.)
2007-02-24 23:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Twizzler712 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Womens' bodies are very curvy and attractive, so it is no wonder that you would find them appealing. Men are smelly and fart all the time, so that is probably why.
2007-02-25 00:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by BMF 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you're definitely one.
2007-02-24 23:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you're a butch lesbian. Welcome to the group!
2007-02-25 14:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋