hello kind people !
i really need help on this one.... its serious pls.. .mature answers PLS
okay, ive never had an orgasm and it really makes me frustrate.
i bought a butterfly clitoral stimulator and ive used it BUT i still havent had my big o! what can i do please, it would mean a lot to me if i could have one, any ideas on how to place it (i know how to but i still dont get it ... am i doing it wrong ?) or what to do ? !? HELP!? :(
2007-02-24 13:54:26 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
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2007-02-24 13:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 12⤋
Generally, the best way for a woman to achieve orgasm is by masturbating with thier own fingers. When they've got that part down, they tend to understand the 'mechanics' of how to achive orgasm.
I suggest watching pornography where a girl is 'solo'. It's just her in front of the camera. Watch what she does with her fingers, and try that.
Or, you could go out and buy and ordinary vibrator. Butterfly's are very tempramental and don't really work for most women.
If worst comes to worst....buy a 'Hitachi Magic Wand' or a 'Symbian'. Both are pretty expensive, especially the symbian, but if those don;t make you have an orgasm, nothing will.
2007-02-24 14:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by rishi_is_awake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that you're getting too tense because you're worried about whether it will happen? That's a problem for some people.
The suggestions about using your own lubricated fingers are good -- a lot of women say that's the most reliable way. As far as technique goes, if you can relax when you're experimenting with your fingers, you'll learn what you like. This can be important: t helps to decide you're just going to experiment and not worry about orgasm for now.
Dunno how old you are, and I don't recommend alcohol to anybody as a rule, but enough to get just a little tipsy tends to help a person relax and get into it.
And a good female health practitioner should be able to help.
Good luck.
2007-02-24 14:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the only advice you will ever need: Stop worrying about it, it does not have anything to do with your value as a woman. When you are with someone you have strong feelings for, and have taken your time building up to it, it will blow your mind. trying to 'make' it happen is a waste of tiem, plus, all the fiddling around reduces your sensitivity. It'll be worth the wait, I promise.
2007-03-02 09:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by Icewomanblockstheshot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women don't have that special switch to turn on or it can't or takes time to turn it on. Keep trying diffrent things like playing with it, using toys like you did look for things on line can could help get you going. There is a gel on amazon.com that claims to get your big o going. See the source and browse arround if you don't like it. Good Luck.
2007-02-24 14:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RELAX!!! Seems for us women it's 90% i our heads, we have to THINK sexy, FEEL sexy, to BE sexy.....
There are women with clitoris's that require alot to stimulate- maybe toss in the clit stimulator and go for the G-Spot.... Can be even better for some then a Clitoris orgasms!
Relax girl it will come and when it does- your going to need to put in for some vacation time! =o)
2007-03-02 13:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by KerBaer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try locating you g-spot you'll have a better chance. On average it located closer to the front of the pelvis. more easlily accesed trough a doggie style position. Or having a partner incert two fingers and doing a "come hither" motion
2007-02-24 13:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Chris B 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
every woman is different.though i'm sure your heard that alot and it doesn't seem to help! i personally need to have my g spot and my clit stimulated together along with the right mood,setting ect.my husband of 10 years jokes that its easier for him to go to work for the day than get me off.haha!
2007-03-02 06:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by fourboysunderfouryears 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know im a guy but whatever, you could try vaginal penetration along with clitoral stimulation. or if you want to then even try anal penetration with clitoral stimulation, or all 3 if you want.
2007-02-24 13:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by Leo j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, have you tried well lubricated fingers? like using your fingers to finger yourself? that might help stimulate along the way... instead of using the vibrator... try using your own finger to stimulate your clitoris, that might help. Hope that helped, and take care!
2007-02-24 13:58:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u just may not to be able to have one, if u r stimulating the clit and nothing, not sure, have u tried a partner? good luck. I am sure a BIG kiss would do it for ya
2007-02-24 13:58:24 · answer #11 · answered by Jay B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋