2007-02-24 13:52:28 · 7 answers · asked by rusalka 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Yes. Romantic love may be this sometimes. Not that it's healthy but when people say that "opposites attract" it's because they complement each other. You are drawn to someone who has qualities you don't have yourself (an extrovert with an introvert for example. Two introverts may be too shy to even meet. Two extroverts may be too competitive for attention, both wanting to be the life of the party.) My boyfriend & I are different in some ways (he is more positive, more extroverted etc whereas I'm negative & introverted) but we are very similar in the ways that matter: both passionate, artistic, loyal, loving, both sensitive Tauruses.
Real love shouldn't be an urge for something you don't have. When you love yourself & feel like you don't need anyone is when you will have the best relationship: two whole people who come together in love, not out of need because they are still independent, but just out of enjoying each other's company & growing as people together.
2007-02-24 14:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that is greed. A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.
After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.
Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.
I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.
I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.
If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.
I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.
Love and blessings
Your brother
don
2007-02-24 21:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice question.
When we love what we dont possess it shows our broad mindedness. It requires a mature mind and a positive attitude to love (not crave or lust) what we donot possess.
Now coming to your question, love is not simply an 'urge'. It is a higher and more complete feeling.
2007-02-25 12:57:37 · answer #3 · answered by smartobees 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think only people who are shallow are like that. Also you only think like that if its not true love.
2007-02-25 00:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... nt at all.... love is what makes u make soothe over things... it fills in a feeling of contentment... but also the personel touch remains in...
2007-02-24 22:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by karishma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean lovers can complement themselves...then yes.
(not 'compliment',although they can do that too:)
2007-02-24 22:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are confusing "love" with "lust" or "desire."
2007-02-24 23:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by Reileah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋