My 9 year old sons 8 year old bestfriend.Appearently has never been taught the approiate way to behave in others homes.I need a diplomatic way to ask her parents to explain that we have different ways we act in our home.Her parents are nice people but the set no limmitse with her.They let her pretty much trash the place.Because they are the kind that don't care if she draws on the walls or spills food on the carpet.Because they don't own their home they rent and when they trash the house they are in they move on to a diffirent one.I teach my son to have respect always regardless weather it is in our home our anywere else.I love this little girl like she is my own.But I can't put up with it much longer.Today I caught her banging on my $3,000 big screen hd flat panel television.Like it was a drum.A few hours before that she used my new jeep to stop her scooter instead of her breaks and scratched it.She does things like this all the time.Please help me figure out how to talk to her parent
2007-02-24 13:34:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, I have talked to her.I have set her down and told her that we love her and having her around but that We have rules in our home and if she wants to be able to hang out here she has to follow our house rules.
2007-02-24 13:49:22 · update #1
be honest with her parents, let them know that you don't want your own child acting like her. tell them all you ask is that when she is in your home she have respect for you, your homes and your valuables. i'm sure they would rather have you say something about her behavior than get a bill for your jeep or tv.
2007-02-24 13:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by firefly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mum always said something to my friends along the lines of "These are the rules here, I don't care how you behave at home. If you do not follow my rules when you visit, I am afraid that you won't be allowed to come over anymore." Never really had to involve the parents. Of course, my mum is a redheaded Irish woman, so quite intimidating when she wants to be, lol...
It might also help if you choose to go that route to begin by restricting the play area when she is over - for example, "You can play in the back yard or your room, but you may not go in the kitchen/laundry room/etcetera without me." Then gradually expand it as she starts behaving better, hopefully.
2007-02-24 21:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Fed_UP_with_work. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely her parents are not going to really care what you say, because they don't really care about their child's behavior. I just would not let my child hang out with this kid anymore. I know it sounds mean. But kids who have parents that let them run wild will not listen to anything you have to say and don't care. The only thing you can tell this kid is that we do not do this at our house and we have rules and when you are here you just can't do that.
2007-02-24 21:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by crash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, have u ever talked to this little person and told them that it is not tolerated. my son had friends like that when he was young and my stuff was too expensive to be handled by other kids. I have taught my son respect and they should realize that if it doesnt belong to them then they shouldnt touch it and if they can't respect it don't come back until they do...gl
2007-02-24 21:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by featherlover2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send her an anonymous letter in the mail, write all ur problems on it, but leave ur name and dont tell her it was u, if she gets mad then explain y "the person" might have sent it
2007-02-24 22:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
punch the parents in the face...really hard, and then say im sorry
2007-02-24 21:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by james o 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋